reply to post by ronishia
I am not disputing you had a hellish time of it, im merely stating that i do know men who receive this benefit and have equal rights tot he child with
So we're not going at each others throat here, let me say I don't dispute the fact that fathers can and do get the CB yes I am fully aware of this
and hope we can be of understanding on this.
As I indicated, the CB was originally set up like a billion years ago in the days when the wives stayed at home and the husbands would hide their pay
packet or blow it down the pub. The CB gave mothers a sense of dignity and above all made sure the kids had their basic needs met.
I'm sure no one ever envisaged today's complicated family issues and the rules on how the CB is issued has not been changed ( up until 2 years ago
at least) whether or not this is a conspiracy by the women within government and the DWP who can say ?
When a "traditional" married couple make a claim for CB for child "A", although in the eyes of the court both have equal entitlement of the
financial affairs such as dept or savings the DWP rules are that the CB is paid to the "Mother" even if the payment goes into a joint account or
even the sole account of the father.
If a residency order is made in favour of the father solely then that changes things and the father can then make a sole application for the CB using
Things become a mare when residency is or has been in dispute , an example being -
Mother is awarded residency in her favour so effectively she becomes the primary carer, dad then gets permission to engage in a relationship with his
children they as visitors to him, regardless even if dad was the primary carer before the break up.
To add insult to injury Dad has in law "Equal Parental Responsibility" but in practice Mother has the final say on everything as she has the
residency order and can at any time without any reason deny the father access to the children.
Should mother decide that the children be cared for by the father 60% of the time one would have thought that as Dad is bearing the greater financial
burden then CB or a large portion of it should go to him. Oops, they forgot to tell dads about that one, it doesn't work like that, he can have the
kids as long as he likes but he will never get his mitts on the CB without mothers say so or a judge changing the Order and the mere whiff of another
court hearing can send mum straight to the police waving her order demanding her kids be braught home immediately.
Does this happen ? Yes it does. A lot ? Far more often than we could care to imagine . Who gets hurt ? The kids every time. Do I know what I'm
talking about ? Yes I do, I could tell you tales that would make your hair curl. Are these isolated issues ? Most defiantly not it goes on day in
day out and is getting worse.
Far too often in the UK children are treated as commodities, in my small street of less than twenty houses alone, there are 7 single moms one in her
forties just had another 2 kids in less than 2 years and another in her thirties has gone from borrowing ( Yes I did say borrowing and it's true) a
child to actually managing to knock one out herself. One just moved having knocked out 3 kids one after the other before she turned 20 !
I seem to have jumped from one thing to another so better take a break.