reply to post by CriticalMess
My husband is saying exactly what you are saying that we be there for her and let her express what is going on in her life.
We, her father, my husband (grandpa) and me (grandma) have a very close relationship with her.
Tomorrow they come over so we can celebrate her 11th birthday (she will be 11 on April 25th).
She likes to go walking with the dogs and talk about "stuff" and is quite open about what is going on in her life.
She once said, she hates her mother and I told her (this was approximately two years back) "You will always love your mother because she is your
mother but you may not like what she is doing or the choices she is making and that can create mixed feelings inside of you". She replied, "Yes and
it's driving me crazy."
She is very level headed for such a young one having gone through so much.
It's not totally her mother's fault as she came from a really bad family background. Her mother walked out on them when she was four and her father
raised them, and he was a alcoholic and just really one of the meanest people I have ever met. He is the only person, I have ever seen in a coffin, I
didn't feel sorry for and I've seen my share of wakes and funerals. Her maternal grandmother (at our urging) started to become involved with our
grand daughter but when she saw her daughter was trying to load off her daughter on her and had turned out like her ex-husband (the maternal
grandfather) she stopped having anything to do with them.
One thing to understand is my ex daughter in law's favorite saying (from her father) was "get them before they get you" type of attitude and she
would brag about stealing, lying, cheating, etc.....
Yes I know, why did my son pick her?
Well she was physically very beautiful, long thick blond hair, 110 pounds (soaking wet with a towel), small, big brown eyes, very pretty almost like a
Brittany Murphy look.
Sad, because she is a lost soul, very hard hearted, not capable of being able to love because as a child she was not loved.
Thank you for your input, that's exactly what my husband says we should do.
We've tried talking to the court, several lawyers, child services - nobody believes me, but the system doesn't care. Nobody honestly doesn't
And we wonder why we have a whole generation of "lost souls".
Again, my son is the father and he says he's just documenting everything.