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Originally posted by BrittanyLea
It amazes me how quick people are to judge. "well you should have never had kids in the first place" REALLY? That's your answer? So many people lose their jobs every day. So many fathers and even mothers walk out on their families every day.
Not only that, but it's really irritating that several of us have stated that we are stay at home moms because it makes since financially AND that we are NOT on welfare. That's mostly what the article was about, and still people keeping coming into the thread without reading the article or the previous comments and chiming in with "You shouldn't have had kids you lazy welfare moms!"
I don't think this thread was about moms complaining and begging for welfare. It was about the fact that it's sometimes a smarter choice financially for a mother to stay home with the children while the father works outside of the home, if it is a two parent family.
Originally posted by ColoradoJens
reply to post by selfharmonise
Mmmhmmm. Again, so if I save $12 dollars I'm all good to go? Got it.
CJ
Your callous and hostile attitude towards anything I say or do would be the first indication. Your replies seem to imply that anyone with a different opinion is scum, and that we're not worthy of having an opinion unless it coincides with your beliefs.
Originally posted by ColoradoJens
reply to post by ~Vixen~
What? Again, where in the world would you get any inkling I would be happy about your personal loss? And again, what does your giving of your time have anything to do with having children?
You're right, it's not about me. I've never asked for anything back for my donations. Knowing I'm helping others is rewarding, however it seems that some people look down on us for caring, and more so for actually taking steps to help others. Maybe the world would be a batter place if we all just minded our own business?
Edit to add: If you are doing charity work to make yourself feel better than you may want to rethink the point of it. IT IS NOT ABOUT YOU.
Edit to add: Perhaps it was you that helped us in deciding NOT to go to Children's Hospital for our treatment. Nasty know it alls who "give" their time while expecting people to bow at their feet all the while they secretly feel pity for those they are helping. Sheesh.
CJ:
Originally posted by ColoradoJens
reply to post by selfharmonise
Nope. Responding to the person who said they save $440k for their kids - as if that is realistic. It is not.
CJ
Originally posted by ColoradoJens
reply to post by ~Vixen~
You brought up your charity work. You said all you get is grief? Then don't do it. Your attitude is eletist. As I pointed out with links, many, many people who have become successful were born into poverty.
Secondly, no, I thank God we made the decision we did - we worked with professionals who WANTED to help us.
It made ALL of the difference in the world. Have a nice day.
CJ
Originally posted by selfharmonise
Originally posted by ButterCookie
reply to post by selfharmonise
Not weird at all. In fact, its the way that I believe. Reproduction should be regulated; its not a right, its a privilege, and with all privileges, they are made to be revoked if not done responsibly.
I think that's the point I made.
Reread my post.
Originally posted by selfharmonise
reply to post by ButterCookie
I had said that expecting to have a right to procreate was weird thinking.
You said it wasn't weird at all in your post in reply to me after it. Meaning to me that you don't think it's abnormal to think its a right to procreate.
Sorry to say it again, but read your post and see if you can see where I am coming from with that.
If a simple comment gets you upset like this....then I apologise if you have had a bad day.
Originally posted by Djarums
If everyone could please post civilly it would be much appreciated.
This is an important topic that deserves more than to have a bunch of "post removed" images all over it.
Come on folks.
Originally posted by BrittanyLea
This is insane. None of this has anything to do with the OP. This is just turning into a thread for some to tell others that they aren't doing their parenting the "right way". Give it a rest. I think everyone should go back and read the OP.
Originally posted by antonia
Originally posted by BrittanyLea
This is insane. None of this has anything to do with the OP. This is just turning into a thread for some to tell others that they aren't doing their parenting the "right way". Give it a rest. I think everyone should go back and read the OP.
I think it's just people looking down on the poor (even though the family in the mentioned OP is far from poor). Hating the poor is as American as monster trucks and chocolate covered bacon. They think poverty is some kind of death sentence.edit on 24-4-2012 by antonia because: added something
Originally posted by ~Vixen~
I think that many are confusing a call for responsible planning with hate, elitism and class warfare.
For those that have kids:
- Did you save money before your children were born?
- Did you stockpile diapers/supplies before your kids were born?
- Did you purchase a crib, bassinet, highchair, etc. before your child was born?
- Prior to delivery, did you discuss the health of your baby with your doctor?
- Did you make arrangements at work for maternity leave?
- Did you adjust your budget to ensure that your bills were met while out on maternity?
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If you've done ANY of the above, you took steps to plan for your child arrival. ALL OF THESE THINGS ARE PLANNING, just in varying degrees.
Do you believe that someone who is homeless and penniless should be having a child at that juncture in their life? They have a right to, but I don't feel that it's prudent to do so until they can't provide for that childs basic needs. That's NOT hating or elitism.
You don't have to be a millionaire or mortgage your home in preparation, but wouldn't you agree that you should at least take *some* precautionary measures to ensure that when your kids were born they had a roof over their head and food to eat?