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Originally posted by Jean Paul Zodeaux
reply to post by ~Vixen~
There was no insinuation, I flat out stated you used a remark I made to point out the irony of a thread where people want to scoff at the idea of poor people having children and how they believe parenting takes planning, and how Planned Parenthood is anything but planning a family, and you decided to ignore that and instead sold Planned Parenthood. I never asked anyone if they could supply some data on Planned Parenthood, and I didn't even make my post in reply to any of yours. Entrench yourself all you want on this issue, your post on Planned Parenthood was clearly a defense of that organization.
Originally posted by ~Vixen~
Originally posted by Jean Paul Zodeaux
There is no perfect plan for that, however too many people go in with NO planning whatsoever. When they face that prospect, they have no money saved, they have no insurance coverage for the child, and that childs welfare is put in jeopardy because of it. Ewings is a very rare affliction, however much of the treatment costs should be covered by insurance coverage. Upfront planning to ensure our children are protected in cases such as that is what I've been advocating throughout this thread. To answer your question directly, I believe I put away approx $20k for each of my first two, and $400k on my third. (due to known prenatal medical issues)
Whooa am i understanding you right , you saved 400 k before having your 3rd child? I dont know any middle class familys who could do that.
Originally posted by Deranged74
Whooa am i understanding you right , you saved 400 k before having your 3rd child? I dont know any middle class familys who could do that.
Originally posted by ~Vixen~
Originally posted by Deranged74
Whooa am i understanding you right , you saved 400 k before having your 3rd child? I dont know any middle class familys who could do that.
When we planned our first two kids, both my husband and I were active duty military officers. $20k was a huge investment, but our belief was that it was our ultimate responsibility, as parents, to ensure that their needs were always met.
By the time we planned our 3rd child almost 20 years later, I was a doctor and my husband was a senior engineer with a well known aerospace corporation. We initially planned to nest $50k for her, but when we found out about certain prenatal medical conditions, we liquidated some assets and raised the available amount accordingly. I'll admit that our situation isn't necessarily indicative of what may be considered "mainstream," however the concept of parental responsibility remains the same.
Originally posted by kosmicjack
Originally posted by JohnPhoenix
People bring this on themselves. people should Not have children if they first do not sit down and figure if the can actually afford children or not.
Well obviously people have been having children since time began. It's only in more modern era of the last few hundred years that less moneyed women have been condemned for doing it.
Originally posted by antonia
Wow, I think JPZ nailed quite a few of you to the wall.
As for "having the money", There are plenty of rich people who have money flowing out of their ears who can't raise children. My husband brings in about 40K a year, I hustle on ebay to make money. I was 28 when I had my son, was married for 6 years at that point. Didn't plan it at all, just kinda happened. I guess that must make me some kind of low-IQ slobbering welfare queen. Of course, I've never gotten any welfare, but whatever. I'm not well-off, guess i shouldn't have had a kid.
You will never be ready for a kid no matter much money you've got. You think it solves every problem. Nope, your kid can still be a screwed up mess no matter how much money you have. Oh, and the longer you put it off the harder it's gonna be on ya when you have it. Sorry, I didn't want to be 50 and chasing a 10 year old around.
I never thought I'd see the day when people on this site actually advocated for those without money to be denied their reproductive rights. People in the U.S. seem to have nothing but contempt for those they perceive as "poor" and they fawn at the feet of the rich. Maybe they will throw you some table scraps, who knows?]
Originally posted by ButterCookie
reply to post by selfharmonise
Not weird at all. In fact, its the way that I believe. Reproduction should be regulated; its not a right, its a privilege, and with all privileges, they are made to be revoked if not done responsibly.
Originally posted by ColoradoJens
reply to post by ~Vixen~
I'm laughing out loud. Really. One must be a doctor and have save nearly half a million dollars before having a child? That takes the cake. Must be nice living in your superior world. Us "unfortunates" who only make $150k a year could NEVER save $400k cash in ten years, unless we eat at the local charity and live on the streets. Is that a magical number or something? What happens when you get in a car crash and cant be a doctor anymore? Did you set aside another $2 million for that? Poppycock.
How about when your hunny no longer finds you attractive and you get divorced - by your reason you have planned for this too - split your income...and how about when your house burns down? I'm sure you planned for that. What other contingencies did you plan on? What exactly does $400k cover? Nice you thought to save money - so did we. Spending over $100k in one year alone on medical bills wipes out our (upper 80%) income. Nice yours is in the top 95%. Again, apparently only doctors and engineers who marry should have kids - this is what can be deduced by your theory - also, by your reasoning, many (without going into detail - I can if you want me too) of the worlds GREATEST HUMANS should NOT have been born because their parents weren't filthy rich. Do you know how many people are not as fortunate as you had children who eventually made the instruments you depend upon and even gave you and your hubby jobs? According to you, these people should NOT have been born. Eletist and absurd.
Originally posted by ColoradoJens
reply to post by ~Vixen~
Christmas in a side car. Now why would you think I would be happy to hear your husband died? Additionally, what does philanthropy have to do with it? So I must have missed your point. Saving $38 dollars for your children is now just as good as $400k - as long as you saved the $38. Got it.
CJ
Originally posted by ~Vixen~
Saying that people should ensure that they can afford kids before having them isn't looking down on anyone, it's advocating responsibility for your choices before dragging a child into a potentially hazardous situation.
Our kids are important and absolutely deserve better than that.