I don't wish to stereotype all young people together, but too many have an unrealistic sense of entitlement.
I'll use myself and my oldest son to make my point. I have traded notes with other parents, and find my situation is far from unique.
To start with, my parents had raised me to be ready to fend for myself at 18. I joined the military, and have no regrets, other than what I've
mentioned in other threads. I managed to earn 2 degrees while serving in the military. I retired from the military at 38, but I also managed to save
much of my military pay, and became independently wealthy as a result. Saving money meant that my wife (not the mother of my oldest son) and I lived
below what my income could afford. Basically, we deprived ourselves of excess material crap in order to achieve financial security. Despite the
wrecked economy, my personal finances are thriving still.
My oldest son, on the other hand, opted to go to college, and further his education. I admire that, and I have been giving him $3,000 a quarter to
help with is costs. However, he continuously asks me for more funding of his education and lifestyle. I'm rather reluctant to pay for more than what
I already commit to. I believe that he needs to learn responsibility for himself. I don't think there would be anything wrong with him working or
getting a job.
Another sore topic, with my oldest son, is how he complains about the new Toyota Camry I bought for his High School graduation. He often points out
how his vehicle didn't even cost 1/3 of any of my personal vehicles.
I just don't know what he expects. I could provide him much more assistance, but why should I? I really don't have to provide what I do already.
I've compared notes with many of my friends, and it seems the same for most of them. Their kids also insist on having everything handed to them, and
Unless my son matures, he will be shocked when I start my dirt nap, and he's been left with nothing.
A full sense of entitlement, and no appreciation. Those traits may see my oldest sons generation achieve a level below mediocrity.
edit on 14-4-2012 by tamusan because: (no reason given)