ok guys...i've got a friend...let's call him bob...
bob and i are very close friends. i care an awful lot about bob. so this has turned into a very delicate situation.
i've felt like bob was becoming too engrossed in forum boards for a little while now. bob has got his feelings hurt by members on forum boards
recently, the whole nine.
over the past couple weeks, bob seems to talk about a forum board more than any other subject (and no, not ATS). to the point where it got REALLY
annoying. one friday night, i was about to leave to go out and before i left, bob stopped me to talk for a second. what did bob want to talk about?
forum board drama. held my friday night up for 30 minutes talking about forum board drama, when it was obvious i was getting sick of hearing about
this forum board.
i had made random comments to bob during conversation last week about people spending too much time on forum boards (not directed at bob at all, just
saying people in general) and bob instantly got defensive, declaring that he wasn't like that. i took this as a classic sign of addiction: denial.
another day, while bob was at an all day social event, bob remembered that he had told people on the forum board that he would be at this event (which
was more of a work related event than it was a social event, but it was a mixture of both) and told folks he would put up some pictures. well, while
bob was at this said event, he text messaged me pictures and asked me to put them up on the forum board. just that morning, i had been noticing people
putting up pictures on facebook of themselves socializing, while they are still socializing and it was kind of ticking me off how addicted people have
become to the internet and social media. hours later, bob texts me pictures and asks me to put them up on this forum board. you can imagine where my
bob has even gone so far as to think that his house was bugged by the CIA because of IP addresses getting banned from visiting a certain forum
now about this forum board bob is a member of: it's a small board, like, 40-50 people. bob has had hour+ long phone conversations with people from
this board on top of text messages on top of private messages on top of over 200 posts on this small forum board in a matter of less than 2 weeks, on
top of posts on other forum boards. i'd hit bob up, "hey...what're you doing?" bob:"on the phone with rick from the forum" bob once sent me a text
message telling me his computer crashed while sending rick a private message. this forum board, to me, seems to be swallowing bobs life and bob can't
so, i called bob out on it. told him that i thought he was addicted to this forum board and needed to take a break. long and short of it, bob said he
doesn't care to have me in his life anymore. i really care about bob and was only trying to reach out and grab his attention cuz lord knows the other
members on that forum board weren't going to call him out about it.
i've seen countless members talk about needing to take a break from ATS (as well as other boards i've looked through) so it seems like a fairly common
problem that people become a bit too engrossed in these forum boards. i mean...phone calls, text messages, private messages, forum board posts and
even some face to face time with some of these members---that seems a bit excessive to me. granted i am no one's father but i am a friend who cares
about the over all health of bob. bob has even told me lately that he feels stretched thin by people and wants to "get away".
i've watched society turn into a bunch of social media addicted zombies over the past year and it's been really irking me. i don't think it's healthy
to be so caught up in a website that you think about that website while you're socializing in real life. facebook apps for your phone? wanting
pictures of you at social events while still at them posted onto a forum board is no different. can't the socializing wait until you're home alone and
real life has ended? i really think that this internet addiction issue is much deeper than people realize. forum boards seem to become reality way too
so what say you ATS? do you think i was right in telling my friend they were too caught up in a forum board or do i owe my friend a big
edit on 12-4-2012 by deo4urbo because: (no reason given)