reply to post by AQuestion
hi there, im sorry to hear about your situation, and i dont know if i can help or shed any light for you...
first can i ask how old your daughter is ? i find it strange that she has now changed her mind... depending on her age or what has happened in her
private life that you may not know about, that might have something to do with it.
my mum and dad split when i was 14.. but they were having problems well before then... i first started noticing the problems when i was 10, so i kinda
knew it was coming. it was a messy split. one day when my brother (who is 3 years younger) and I came home from school, mum was acting strange (dad
was out) and she said we're leaving. she left a note by the remote on the tv stand lol
confused, me and my brother did as we were told, packed some things and then we headed to my mum's friends house. we stayed there for 3 months, only
seeing dad once a week, which killed my brother and i we were and still are close to him - but he was a b*****d at times... and i dont blame her for
but whilst we were there mum's friend (who had been divorced once before) was hell bent on making my dad pay. she even had the police come round and
ask me if he'd ever 'touched me inappropriately'... i was shocked and appalled at that question, and i will never forgive her for that. my dad
would never do such a hideous thing...
but anyway, as i knew that one day they would split, it never really bothered me. i just wanted them both to be happy - i didnt care what it was that
made them happy. my brother on the other hand took it a lot harder...
he seemed to think it was his fault, but after talking to him myself, he understood. i was just happy all the shouting, verbal abuse and treading on
eggshells around dad had stopped..
but there was one thing that i think put both mine and my brothers minds at rest... they kept us constantly informed about what was going on. they
were very open with us as to why. and if we asked questions they would always answer to best of their abilities.... this is what helped most i
i am now 21... and my brother 18.. a year ago my dad was made homeless, as his landlord's house was burnt down and he needed the house dad was
staying in. so dad left. as my mum is such a damn softy, she said she couldnt see my dad on the streets, and seeing as dad never really had any close
friends he moved back in with mum... they stil have their quarrels, but oddly enough they both seem to enjoy being 'together' again, i think its
because they have each other for company as both my brother and i dont live there anymore...
they never got a divorce as neither could afford it, nor could they be bothered with it. and they both know they will not get married again... but,
should the time come, neither would have a problem with filing for divorce.
all i would say to you is make sure you talk to her, ask her is she has any questions. push her a little bit and ask why she has changed her mind.
most of all reassure her that it wasnt her fault and that sometimes things just dont work out...
communication is key.
hope this helps, and good luck