reply to post by KewlDaddyFatty
Well I'm a 59 year old woman so maybe I'm just old fashioned.
39 years ago when my husband and I first met and talked he told me one thing he would not tolerate would be for me to betray him by cheating on him.
He had, had a first wife (no kids) that he came home early one day and caught her with two men...............why I don't know, my husband could keep
eight women happy. I'm nine years younger and can barely keep up with him.
My one thing I would not tolerate (besides cheating on me) was if he ever raised a hand to me or treated me rough or mean - that would be it. I was
orphaned at 9 and from 9 to 20 I was physically, sexually and mentally abused. Never again.
39 years and we are still together. But we agreed to a monogamist relationship.
My own opinion, if you two are not polygamists and she called him "hot stuff" and I were you and want to salvage this relationship - both of you need
to see a good marriage / family counselor NOW. Bring this subject up asap.
Hopefully children are not involved. Legally, women have the upper hand in most courts of law. Tread very carefully. If she does not want to
salvage this marriage, make sure you find a really really REALLY GOOD divorce lawyer (Not Levine in Chicago - he sucks).
Again, I'm old and maybe you young ones do stuff different now but my husband and I don't do Facebook or Twitter - I think they suck and are
If she posted that comment in public, to my mind that is a verbal betrayal (slap in the face to you) and possibly it sounds like she has maybe even
gone beyond talking or will shortly.
To me, you are not fulfilling something she thinks she needs and she (again to me) is looking around for something better to come along.
I don't know you personally and I could very well be wrong.
You both need a good mediator to sort through this if you both indeed want to remain married.
Again, I would never do this to my husband, don't need to, he is my rock, my anchor, my everything.
Be very careful how you handle this situation as marriage and children are legally binding contracts. In a court of law, women get full custody 80%
of the time and most divorces drag the kids through the mud - they are the victims.
To me, and again, I'm older and from another era.............sounds to me like she is flirting, maybe more.
I would never post something like that.
You might print this and any other flirting junk she is putting out there on Facebook and start keeping a log / journal as if this situation escalates
to court, you will have a paper trail that may be of help. Document, document, document.
If you can't salvage this marriage try to end it on a good note, don't tit for tat, "get even", it's not worth it.
If you both have children my heart goes out to them, again they are the real victims in most divorces.
Keep in mind "joint custody" means you get to see your children for 48 hours every two weeks if she agrees to comply and make sure you get a agreement
that she cannot move out of state with your children or you will very rarely see them and she will play that woman game of alienating them from you
and your parents.
I know, we've been through the divorce from hell to the tune of $28,000.
I've never seen my grand daughter in a school play, have gone through periods of time where we didn't see her for months - but I'm only the maternal
edit on 5-4-2012 by ofhumandescent because: (no reason given)