posted on Apr, 5 2012 @ 10:05 AM
Okay so I'll try to keep this as short as possible. First off I had no idea where to post this so chose the rant section, if this was wrong please
move it, thank you.
I wasn't going to post about what happened to me and my family but events today have changed that and I really need some help/advice.
Recently my partner and I had a baby together, we had 2 already and both were delivered at hospital. My partner wasn't happy with the experience and
neither was I. I looked into home births, which led me to the subject of unassisted home birth. This might sound really scary, but when you put the
amount of research in that I did it's not what you think. Any way it fitted what we wanted and after learning all we could we decided to go for it!
I will add that during the pregnancy my partner was inspected by a midwife and really hurt her. That day and the next she could barely walk! It was
towards the end of the pregnancy and I told her that if they are hurting you don't go back! She was scared about this because she felt that she had
to do these examinations or she would get in trouble. I informed her that there was no law to make you attend these examinations. She didn't go back
after that, she was maybe a month away at this point.
There was another event that shaped our view. Even though we had already decided what we were going to do. My partner was called into the doctors
surgery because of the results of a blood test, she was panicked and tried to find out what the problem was over the phone, but they wouldn't tell
her! Must be serious we thought. We find out later that the blood test showed she was 1 point below the threshold of her iron! That was it? Apparently
so... The doc gave her 'ferrous fumerate' was is an iron supplement, I asked him what was in it, to which he said "iron, and other stuff". What
was the other stuff? He didn't know! I tell him that I am skeptical of the health industry as I believe they pander to the pharmaceutical industry.
He informed me that they do not get their drugs from pharmaceutical industry anymore! Really?
Right so hopefully you can see why we wanted to do what we did. There are many other reasons but I won't go into that here.
The day came and my partner was getting contractions, we had everything set up, pool, meditation music, candles etc... He was born and it was a
fantastic experience. I felt as though I could let go more as we didn't have loads of people about us.
3 days later I remembered that my partner had a midwife appointment coming, so thinking I was being nice I phoned up the hospital to cancel it, after
all our son was here and feeding and was healthy. Why rock the boat? The lady on the other end was a bit taken aback when I informed her that he was
here, but said that she would pass it on to the midwives. Thinking nothing more of it we went about our normal routine...
About 6 hours later there is a knock on the door, it was the police! My partner answered and was frightened, I came to the door seconds later and
asked them what they wanted. They said that they were concerned for the welfare of our son! He was in my partners arms at the time. I told them to
look at him and that he was fine! They insisted on coming in so I asked to see a warrant! They told me they didn't need one as they would just use
section 17 (life and limb) and force their way in! My partner was pleading with me to let them in so under duress I did.
The midwives were waiting on the pavement and came in when the police had bullied us into letting them in. One midwife came straight in and took my
son off of my partner, and started doing the examination! I was protesting the whole time that this was against my human rights etc... After some time
of pleading my case (it fell on deaf ears) I suddenly mentioned that the midwives need CONSENT to do what they were doing! The oldest one immediately
jumped up and said she would leave as we have removed consent! We never gave it to begin with! And if they needed consent how on earth could they come
with the police? As they left they threatened to call the social services on us! My partner (having gave birth 3 days previously) was petrified and
pleaded with them to come back in! Which they did eventually. They checked him out and he was fine! As if we didn't know! Personally I would have
just let them leave! But I understand why she didn't.
After the examination my partner said, "so that's it now? You won't call the SS? To which they said, well that's up to our manager! Even though
they knew he was fine they still went ahead and called them! Please bare in mind that we had done nothing wrong by law! We were very informed and had
back up plans in place!
So it was about 2 and a half weeks later when the SS arrived (they must have been really concerned). I told them what had happened but refused them
entry into our house. They made all kinds of crazy accusations like that he had missed his 6 week and 8 week check ups (these check ups are not law.),
he was 3 weeks old at the time!
They went away and came back later with the police! I told them they were not coming in either and that I had already told these people everything!
Also I had contacted the manager. Eventually after a phone call to her manager they left saying "we'll leave you tonight but you still got to have a
meeting"! Really? For what? Well days went past, then weeks, nothing! They were so concerned for our children obviously!
During this time we had gone to the police to make a complaint regarding the abuse of powers etc... We asked for the referral and it came back that
the midwives told the police that they didn't even know my partner was pregnant! She had been to scans, midwife appointments, the lot! Regardless of
this there is no law to compel you to inform anyone of a pregnancy or birth! There is a law that says you must register the baby within 48 days and
So the midwives lied to the police! Will there be any arrests? Nope! I get to see someone regarding this case and he tried to hide the fact of what
the midwives had said! He wouldn't give me a copy of the referral either! But I finally get him to admit what the midwives had said. We make another
appointment to discuss things more formally. I decided in the spare time to right out our complaint. When we went back they wouldn't take my written
statement because I am not my partner! lol... I told them that she will sign it! She told them that she would too! They refused to accept it saying
they couldn't as I'd written it. This is another lie!
Damn I've nearly ran out of space, I applaud you if you got this far!
2 months pass and we still don't hear from the SS. Seems they have gone? We move area to be closer to her mum and because we lived in a bad area
anyway. We've been here now for about a month. Today we get a knock on the door and it's the SS again! This time they are saying it is suspicious
because I wouldn't let the other lying scumbags in! Really? I sent this lot away too!
There is more that I missed out, maybe if you guys have any questions/advice the rest can come out.
So yeah, there you go. HELP PLEASE!