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Originally posted by ModernAcademia
If this thread became a debate then NewSoul WON!!!!
While she was patiently giving her arguments and portraying herself like nothing less than an open book and willing to talk about anything related to the debate impatient people barked at her, name called her and therefore lost the debate.
Originally posted by ModernAcademia
Originally posted by Annee
LEGAL MARRIAGE. It is a government contract - - that basically is what it is. It is a contract of protection and affords certain rights/privileges granted by the government.
No one - - straight or gay is required to get married. It is a choice. Except gays do not have that choice. And there is no reasonable reason for them not to have that choice.
LEGAL MARRIAGE has nothing to do with any belief - non-belief - - - it is a contract. That is all it is.
If its about Gays - - then its about Equal Rights - - not about what Marriage is.
Most of the rights afforded by the government that you speak of thanks to this contract are not what I would consider human rights anyhow
There is a middleman here and it's the church
Gays should open up private wedding churches or centers and lobby for it to be state/federally recognized
But instead trying to change religion is a futile path
Originally posted by Annee
Originally posted by IanPaul
Ok, that is a good "cop out" as you put it. Let me rephrase...
Annee, I have quite a serious question for you, and I would like your honest answer.
If a man were to fall in love with an 8 year old girl, or even a 16 year old girl, and the girl shared the same love back with the man, would it be ok for them to get married? or even to have a physical relationship?
And I am saying this as if the couple in question are in sane mind, and completely in love with eachother in all ways that two people can be.
I gave you a legitimate answer.
You changed your wording - - - didn't you say Father/Daughter?
The "rule of law" is the girl should reach the age of her menstrual cycle.
In most states in the United States - - I think the legal age for marriage with parent consent is 12 (I'd have to look that up again to be positive).
In some states the legal age is 16 without parent consent.
In countries that have arranged marriages and marry off young girls - - the husband is supposed to wait until she is of age (menstrual cycle) before intercourse.
The idealistic situation for a young girl to marry - - would be into a family unit with older women who treat her kindly and help her learn to take care of a household and be a wife.
There have been older men who have married young girls just to get them out of an abusive household.
So -- the answer is - - totally depends on the circumstances.
Originally posted by ModernAcademia
Gay marriage is not a right, and neither is a straight marriage....period!
How can a man-made institution be a human right?
That's like saying owning an Xbox is a human right
It should be up to the church to decide, and different churches can have different opinions.
And hey guess what, gay churches can open up too, private ones that is.
It's not the role of govt. to tell you who you can't marry
But wait... don't agree with me just yet, because it's also not the role of govt. to tell you who YOU CAN marry either.
So the entire debate becomes a non-issue, and so much energy is being wasted on it
If GAY people can't MARRY,
Straight people are not allowed to DIVORCE.
*
Originally posted by IanPaul
I still haven't gotten a yes or a no specifically...
Let's assume it is your granddaughter that wanted to marry some stranger that is 67 years old. Do you believe that if they were in love, they should be allowed to marry/get physical?
So a 67 year old man wants to marry your granddaughter, do you BELIEVE that they have the right to make that decision? Regardless of laws, they WANT to get married, and they will fight the government to override the status quo and allow them to get married... Do you believe that they should be allowed to because it is their "human-equal" right, because they are in love?
Originally posted by kaylaluv
Originally posted by IanPaul
Ok, that is a good "cop out" as you put it. Let me rephrase...
Annee, I have quite a serious question for you, and I would like your honest answer.
If a man were to fall in love with an 8 year old girl, or even a 16 year old girl, and the girl shared the same love back with the man, would it be ok for them to get married? or even to have a physical relationship?
And I am saying this as if the couple in question are in sane mind, and completely in love with eachother in all ways that two people can be.
Here's a couple of questions for you, IanPaul. Honest answers, please.
If an atheist man falls in love with an atheist woman, would it be ok for them to get married and have a physical relationship?
If an infertile man falls in love with a quadriplegic female, would it be ok for them to get married and have a physical relationship?
Of course, all parties in question are of sane mind and completely in love with each other in all ways that two people can be.
Originally posted by IanPaul
Using your statement, "It is not human equal - - as in who you love - - who you are emotionally and physically attracted to"...
So a 67 year old man wants to marry your granddaughter, do you BELIEVE that they have the right to make that decision? Regardless of laws, they WANT to get married, and they will fight the government to override the status quo and allow them to get married... Do you believe that they should be allowed to because it is their "human-equal" right, because they are in love?
reply to post by newsoul
I feel that homosexuality is against the natural laws of the universe. Many gay people have pointed out to me that in the animal kingdom, homosexuality is quite normal. That is a weak argument, animals also eat their offspring and often engage in cannibalism. By their logic, am I to also accept fallicide and cannibalism in humans? I mean if animals do it, it must be fine for us.
Originally posted by Annee
Originally posted by IanPaul
I still haven't gotten a yes or a no specifically...
Right at the bottom of my last post: "So -- the answer is - - totally depends on the circumstances."
Let's assume it is your granddaughter that wanted to marry some stranger that is 67 years old. Do you believe that if they were in love, they should be allowed to marry/get physical?
Yes. Everyone must walk their own path.
So a 67 year old man wants to marry your granddaughter, do you BELIEVE that they have the right to make that decision? Regardless of laws, they WANT to get married, and they will fight the government to override the status quo and allow them to get married... Do you believe that they should be allowed to because it is their "human-equal" right, because they are in love?
Your comparison is not relevant.
Heteros do not have the right to break the law and marry a minor.
Equality - - is Heteros - same as Gays. If its legal for Heteros - - then it should be legal for Gays.
edit on 4-4-2012 by Annee because: damn F key keeps sticking.
Originally posted by MrWendal
The real problem here is the fact that Government is involved in marriage at all. It is a religious ceremony and has nothing to do with Government, at least it used to have nothing to do with Government until IRS came along.
Originally posted by IanPaul
My questions may have seemed callous and presumptuous, but what I am getting at is that individuals' beliefs are relative to the individual. Annee felt that because another poster had an alternative belief than hers, that she could assume she is a biggot, or hateful. When NewSoul was expressing her alternative viewpoint she was met with assumptive replies rather than a constructive discussion. Regardless of the situation someone will have a point where their belief acceptance may reach a breaking point... By asking about something that maybe won't sit well with her beliefs, I can illustrate how one's personal opinion/belief can be called bigotted or hateful, when in fact it is simply their belief.
Hope I wrote that clear enough.
Originally posted by IanPaul
Well technically it is illegal for gay marriage, not in all states, but it is illegal... The point is they are fighting for a change in the law...
Originally posted by IanPaul
I see your point 100% about gay marriage, and I don't believe that you are crazy for believing that way, although I don't agree with your belief, . .
Originally posted by kaylaluv
Originally posted by IanPaul
Using your statement, "It is not human equal - - as in who you love - - who you are emotionally and physically attracted to"...
So a 67 year old man wants to marry your granddaughter, do you BELIEVE that they have the right to make that decision? Regardless of laws, they WANT to get married, and they will fight the government to override the status quo and allow them to get married... Do you believe that they should be allowed to because it is their "human-equal" right, because they are in love?
12-year-olds know a lot about crushes - but not a lot about adult love. Also, it's not really fair to make a 12-year-old sign and agree to a legal contract they probably don't understand.
Couldn't we keep this debate about consenting adults - not children, or dogs, or toasters? Do I think two 12-year-old gay boys should be allowed to marry? No. Do I think two 30-year-old gay men should be allowed to marry? Absolutely.
Originally posted by kaylaluv
Do you see the difference? You would be surprised at how tolerant and unprejudiced children are naturally. They are taught to be prejudiced. And that is what Annee is against.
Originally posted by IanPaul
Again, I'm using extremes to make a point... Would it be ok for someone to assume you are a biggot because you don't believe two 12-year-old gay boys should be allowed to marry?
Originally posted by Star128
Homosexuality is NOT a "Lifestyle".
Ignorance IS a lifestyle.
Why?
Because you can educate yourself.
Unless you're just plain stupid, which is usually coupled with arrogance.
FYI.
Originally posted by kaylaluv
Originally posted by IanPaul
My questions may have seemed callous and presumptuous, but what I am getting at is that individuals' beliefs are relative to the individual. Annee felt that because another poster had an alternative belief than hers, that she could assume she is a biggot, or hateful. When NewSoul was expressing her alternative viewpoint she was met with assumptive replies rather than a constructive discussion. Regardless of the situation someone will have a point where their belief acceptance may reach a breaking point... By asking about something that maybe won't sit well with her beliefs, I can illustrate how one's personal opinion/belief can be called bigotted or hateful, when in fact it is simply their belief.
Hope I wrote that clear enough.
But it is a very different situation when someone may be against a child getting into something they don't really understand, as opposed to someone who just thinks gays don't have the right to be married, or someone who wants to teach their children to be intolerant of gays.
Do you see the difference? You would be surprised at how tolerant and unprejudiced children are naturally. They are taught to be prejudiced. And that is what Annee is against.