posted on Apr, 2 2012 @ 10:19 PM
reply to post by Vanna
I have been through similar times. With me however there was an affair, not me my ex.
The hardest part to trying to work this through is communicating how you feel about the other person without it ending in an argument!
We used to get started with "talking" and before you know it voices would raise as each of us battled to be heard.
In the end the only way i could say what i wanted to say was to write it down.
Its actually quite therapeutic writing down your feelings, you can then read them back almost in the third person and get a better understanding of
The other person also cannot argue with a piece of paper and it may just give them the opportunity to listen to what your saying.
You could start it off with something like: "please give me 10 minutes and read through carefully"
Its tricky, sad, upsetting, annoying, infuriating, and every other emotion all wrapped up.
I'm now approaching the end of my divorce and can honestly say that looking back it was the right thing for me.
Good luck to you, i hope your ok.