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Originally posted by TheXoor
I want to thank you all for your replies.
Now I will decide whether or not to show my wife this thread...
Originally posted by TheLegend
reply to post by Annee
If they don't then it's because they haven't found the right partner to bring out their inner animal or they're so old that they have virtually 0 libido.
Come on over and I'll show you. That back massage will turn into all kinds of shenanigans.
Originally posted by Annee
Dude - - I got divorced right in the middle of the sexual revolution.
We put way too much power on sex. Marriage is so much more then sex.
Originally posted by Gazrok
I am NOT for the idea of stepping out of the marriage for a booty call. If her lack of libido is self-esteem based, this will CERTAINLY not help things.
Originally posted by Suspiria
reply to post by korathin
I think it's a tad unfair and rash to be pushing the OP to surreptitiously make notes in order to pursue divorce. You have no earthly idea why the poor woman doesn't feel like it. I wonder how many men would relish being dragged through the divorce courts on the grounds they weren't man enough for the job? What a hideous thing to do to anyone..
It's funny you should then go on to bash people for voicing opinions on a matriarchal angle, since those who have seem to have a greater scope of solutions and more of an open minded perspective on it than folks who seem to think dragging her by the hair to the cave or divorcing her are the only ways to go.
Originally posted by HoppedUp
I can definitely relate to the feeling of being room mates more than spouses and lovers! I feel like that quite often and I tell him how I feel. He assures me that he loves me and I believe him. I love him too, otherwise, I would be finding some from somewhere. I really wish I had something reassuring to tell you, but I don't. I have just forgotten about sex for the most part. When we do have it, it's not even really good anymore anyway, and I'm not attracted to him anymore. Is she attracted to you? As for me, I just don't have the heart to leave him since he's injured, and I love the person he is inside, so leaving for so superficial a reason as no sex after nearly 10 years seems quite shameful. Men can whack and stuff and that helps you guys, right? You know, with a "movie" or a mag? I wish it were that easy for us girls that aren't into the whole B.O.B deal. I just try and burn it all out on my runs or in the gym...that works for me. I read a lot. I bought a $3,000 telescope and I spend nights looking into the heavens. I enjoy cooking. I draw and paint. Find new and creative ways to express yourself and satiate other desires. Oh, and the occasional and random freaky dream where you get an explosive orgasm helps out too. I guess that's my own body's way of "compensating".
I understand your pain and I wish you well.