posted on Mar, 29 2012 @ 05:21 PM
This isn't so much a rant as it is an observation about people that rubs me the wrong way.
There are people in this world who are very sensitive emotionally and are withdrawn into themselves for whatever reason. They don't associate with
other people to the extent that most people do and, as a result, are misunderstood by others. This misunderstanding often takes on a note of
negativity by the ones who judge these quiet people. They call them wierd, a snob, a b*tch......you name it and there's a negative label for them.
More often than not the people who are being misjudged like this let it roll off their shoulders and say "Oh, that's alright".
Well, no, it's not. Not in my book. I used to be one of those quiet people when I was much younger and I can tell you from personal experience that
it hurts to be misunderstood and called things that I really wasn't. When this happens to a person long enough one of two things will happen. They
will start turning into the type of person they're being judged as; as a way of dealing with those hurt feelings, or they'll start medicating those
feelings to where they wont hurt anymore. Some people choose alcohol, some drugs, while others will immerse themselves in work so they wont have to
feel a lot of emotions. Because whenever they do, they're feelings of loneliness and hurt because they feel no one is on their side.
Something else people need to stop doing is pushing them to be something they're not. If they have any shortcomings at all, they know what they are
and they'll deal with them on their own terms and in their own time. They're shy, not stupid. Chances are, the more you push them the more they'll
go back in their shell. That's the way it was with me at least. And I did that because I didn't really trust that they had my best interests in
mind. They were doing it for whatever reasons THEY had.
People need to open their eyes and realize that just because someone does things in a different way than you, it doesn't make them weird or socially
retarded. Everyone is different and has grown up under different circumstances that made them what they are. If they don't open up to you it's
probably because they feel you wouldn't understand them, and if you hold their shy, quiet ways agsinst them by putting negative labels on
them....they're right. You wouldn't understand because you're too quick to judge. I can all but guarentee you that they're not judging you or
talking about you behind their back, so the least you can do is return the favor.
Get to know them sometime and you might be surprised at how intelligent, honest, and real they are. They don't want your sympathy and they certainly
don't want you looking at them as some sort of "project". You won't see them being loud and proud about things and you certainly wont see them
pretending to be something they're not just for the sake of fitting in somewhere. They're real, which is much more than I can say about the people
who pass false judgement against them.