posted on Mar, 26 2012 @ 05:31 AM
OP, I understand you are in poor health at the moment and worried for your child, any reasonable parent would be, but I think you need to think
rationally about the situation you are in, and about the trip in general.
You are concerned for your daughter, and you have for whatever reason is your own, entrusted her care to the DHS which I presume is some kind of
foster care administered by the state. You also said, that 99 children died in their care. I should think that these children, the DHS is probably not
responsible for their deaths. I don't think any rational parent would entrust their most precious child to an establishment that had so many of their
wards die in a year. Also, unless you know the circumstances of their deaths, it's not really something you should get a bee in your bonnet about.
Some people put their children into the care of the state if they have a severe dependent need for continual care which a parent sometimes cannot
provide. The children who died may have had illnesses which attributed to their deaths.
Also, I do not think the DHS would take your child, or any child in their care to a place where they would not be safe.
It is absolutely your right as a parent to worry, and I think you should address your concerns when you get the opportunity, but as she is legally not
in your care, I do not think whether you want her to go or not will change what happens. By all means, ask questions, ask where they are going.
I think you said previously that they have not told you to cause more hurt, and I think this is a bit silly really, because you are not looking at the
situation with a clear mind. Sometimes when we worry we see things that may not be there, and blow things out of proportion. I honestly don't think
information is being with held from you in regards to where they are going, but again, it is your right to ask.
When I have taken part in school trips, when the trip is in arrangement, there is a letter sent home with only vague details, "We are planning a trip
to Wales/Spain/Canada" but until they make more final decisions, another letter would be sent later, "We a planning a trip to
I think for now, until the time comes when you are able to put across your questions (and I'm sure you have many, write them down and take them with
you!), concentrate on the child in your care, and try not to worry about the things you are uncertain about. You still have one person in your life
that needs you right now, so try your best to be there for them, as much as you want to be there for your other daughter.