posted on Mar, 19 2012 @ 01:49 AM
From one grandmother to another... don't let statistics worry you. Dwelling on negative thoughts will only freak you out and lead to a miserable
life of unnecessary fear. Turn back the clock to the days of your youth when we all felt like we were indestructible and wold live forever. Believe
that you are immortal. Most of all, HAVE FUN, and learn to live each day as if it were your last.
When I lost my husband a few years ago I felt that my day was coming soon. Statistics say that a large number or surviving spouses succumb to death
not long after they lose their soul mate, and in all my misery I began to believe that my time was quickly approaching. I was depressed, and dropped
from 145 lbs to 85 lbs in a matter of weeks. In essence, I was caught up in a destructive self fulfilling prophecy.
One day a very dear friend confronted me with her fears for my health, and reminded me of my long standing beliefs that statistics are meant to be
beat, that my husband most admired my positive spirit and I should adopt a more positive life in his honor, and that I needed to enjoy life to its
fullest and live each and every day as if it were my last. That day of self reflection was pivotal in my recovery, and a everlasting reminder of how
important maintaining a positive outlook on life is to our existence.
Since then I've re-learned how to have fun. I've taken time to travel and explore the endless beauty of this world. Europe, Africa, the far east,
Alaska, Tahiti, and all 50 US states have been mine to discover. Be unpredictable. One of my most exciting trips was totally unplanned. Friday
after work I drove from the office to the airport, picked a destination from the list of departing flights, and went on a weekend adventure with only
the clothes on my back. Yes it can get expensive, but its really refreshing to laugh out loud and say "yeah, its crazy, but I DID THAT!"
During your down time, adopt a hobby that would blow peoples minds. I took up online gaming... first person shooters and MMO's to be more specific.
Playing first person shooters (Call of Duty and Battlefield series games) helped to hone my reflexes, and gave me the opportunity to interact with
many groups I would never have known otherwise. It was a blast! I then started playing a MMO game with a friend, formed a guild, built it up, and
ended up capturing a main city in the weekly castle siege. (Captured in October, and its still mine)
If gaming doesn't appeal to you, consider furthering your education into a occupational field totally different from your own. I'm an MD by
profession, but for several years I maintained my series 7 and series 63, (only lapsed due to broker/dealer sponsorship issues) I've gotten several
computer hardware and networking certifications, and have learned airbrushing, massage therapy and acrylic/gel/solar nail design.
Above all, spend quality time with your loved ones.
While many may joke that I may have lost my mind in pursuing all that I have, I can likewise be absolutely proud of all that I've achieved in so many
diverse ways. Will I live to see my next grandbaby? Probably, but if I don't, I'll certainly have left a legacy for everyone to remember me by.