Trying on 10 outfits and staring critically at the mirror before leaving the house is practically a teenage rite of passage. But these days, girls know precisely how their peers are judging them, thanks to the “Like” button on Facebook. “When I choose my profile picture, I want people to ‘Like,’ it,” said Grace. In fact, she and her friends are keenly aware of how to goose the numbers. “You get more ‘Likes’ if it’s a model shot and not a goofy picture with your friends,” she explained.
The formula is simple: The more “Likes” you get, the more popular you appear. “Girls don’t just want to get ‘Likes’ from their close friends,” said 14-year-old Lily. “They want to get them from boys, or older kids or kids from other schools who are popular.”
One way to be popular is to be sexy. The group I spoke with could all point to teenagers whose Facebook
pictures are, in their words, “hot” — and also those that have crossed the line into “slutty.” Several admitted to considering posing in a bikini for their profile picture, though they were concerned about getting “a reputation,” and none have actually done so, at least not yet. “If you want a boy to look at you, you do a bikini shot or push your boobs out,” said one of the girls.
I don't think I could handle kids in this world, the outside influence is so enormous...
It's definitely not facebooks fault. The question is why do they feel the need to do it in the first place?
Bad values... the sexualised media doesn't help either
Tough times as a parent I can imagine! Keep cleaning that gun
Several admitted to considering posing in a bikini for their profile picture, though they were concerned about getting “a reputation,” and none have actually done so, at least not yet.
I definitely agree that facebook is sexualizing young girls. so is the media. in fact, the media is deluding everyone into thinking worthless things are important and the important things are of no consequence. it's a sad sad world I have to raise my daughters in.
fact: i don't have a facebook or myspace
fact: i will not allow my children to participate in such things when they are old enough (i will explore alternatives so that they are not socially awkward)
fact: i don't let my children watch most of the cartoons on today.
fact: i don't let my children watch much tv at all!
fact: my children will dress modestly and most likely will not date while in school!
most people probably think i'm a nazi but i'm just taking care of my kids. I'll still make sure they are on the up and up with the rest of the world, but i'm hoping to instill certain values and ideals that will give them an advantage over the people who are letting the rest of the world raise their kids.
so bravo! keep it up. your kids might have issues with it now, but they will respect you once they learn what is respectable in their own terms.
This is time in the kids life when they decide who they want to be. They will have to weigh all the options and some will make bad choices and some good. Some will learn lessons from their bad choices and some will miss lessons from their good ones.
It's all part of growing up.
But social pressures that make them do what most adults consider "bad" also make them do good. Part of the reputation kids receive can be from any extreme one way or the other.
We were hard on each other in school and made fun of each other for any slip up, and it made us who we are today. (Surprisingly a lot of my friends are dead not sure what that means... )
In any case though, growing pains...
I have a thirteen year old daughter. She's on fb, all her friends are on fb. There's always drama from someone talking smack or commenting on photos or something. We have her password and I regularly check up on her comments and photos and make sure she's behaving.
Some of the more outrageous photos, I've called parents and talked to them about it. It always amazes me that the parents had no idea it was happening. Not to mention the naive things they post. One girl actually posted she would be home alone for the next couple of hours. I messaged her and explained that was a trifle dangerous; her reply was "lol I have a bat"