reply to post by Annee
Does a single working mother really have the ability to take off work to go to court hearings? And how many court hearings?
Is her job more important then trying to go through the court system to get a dead beat dad tested - - - who probably won't pay his child support
There is an issue of class involved as well. And culture. And by culture, I mean "race" but in a politically correct way.
The single-working mother, that doesn't have time to take off work and go to a bunch of court hearings, is not the same mother listing 30 different
possible dead-beat fathers. The mother you describe knows exactly who the father is, when the baby was conceived, where the father works, and the
father more than likely is also working, and he may not voluntarily cooperate or pay, but they are going to get him one way or another.......
eventually. The more the mother can cooperate and attend hearings and assist, the faster the proceedings move along, and this is just an unfortunate
side-effect of limited state resources and budgeting.
The type of child support case Santorum is talking about is a mother, with 3 or more illegitimate babies from 3 or more unidentified fathers, the
mother isn't working, isn't on birth control, and is continually having additional unprotected sex and is perfectly comfortable with the state paying
for additional babies. In fact, if she is on cash assistance, then additional babies means more money in her pocket, and the babies are raising each
other by now anyway, she isn't doing any "mothering." The child support money is going towards a drug habit, hair, and nails, so she can continue to
attract more dead-beats to her back door.
What I just said is very ugly, but it is also extremely true. You would be appalled at the statements made by these mothers. They "need their money"
so they can get "blazed." I've heard it more times than I can count! They might have gotten a big tax settlement last month, but this month they're
already claiming they can't buy groceries. When you ask what happened to the $15k from last month (making no suggestions or accusations, just an
innocent question), the response is always, "It's none of your business if I got some rims! You just need to get me my money!"
There are about 4 different types of child support clients. 1. There are professional/mature couples trying to work things out for the kids. 2.
There are professional/mature couples using the kids as ammunition and only concerned about themselves. 3. There are deadbeats that actually care
about the kids, and 4. there are deadbeats and losers that only care about themselves.
There are some unfortunate stories from group 1 where one parent or the other gets screwed by the system, but they just roll with it for the kids
sake. These are the most difficult ones to justify in my mind, it is a shame we can't fix the system.
There are many, many unfortunate stories from group 2 where the parent's need some sense slapped into them.
There are many, many unfortunate stories from group 3, and these are the stories the entire system was built to help, and these are the folks that are
willing and eager to accept help and comply and do whatever it takes, and we should be focusing all of our resources in group 3...
Then, there are the stories from group 4 that make great political fodder, are easy to stereotype, are unfortunately all too common, and they ruin the
system for the other 3 groups.
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