posted on Mar, 6 2012 @ 10:31 AM
If you really are the "Black Sheep" of your family. If people gravitate to and interact with others, but not with you, I think you have to ask
yourself, Why is that? You must be doing something differently. You exhibit some sort of behavior that makes people not want to include you.
I don't know what that behavior is, so I'm not judging it at all. It's just that from your description it must be the case that you are doing
something differently. This might be a personality issue, a lifestyle issue, a behavior issue. You have to be he one to determine what that issue
Once you determine what that issue is, you need to decide whether it is worth fixing. If you value being included with the family more than you do
whatever behavior you exhibit that is excluding you, you need to change the behavior. If you value whatever it is that is excluding you more than
being included with family, you need to accept the fact thet you cannot be included with the family.
In my view, which is a somewhat jaundiced one, in many cases if you were not related to members of your family, you wouldn't want to hang out with
them anyway. If you weren't related to these family members, would you want to seek them out as friends? Making friends is often hard work. Given
that "familiarity breeds contempt," being friends with family can be even harder.
The real point here is that the choice is yours to make.