posted on Mar, 3 2012 @ 04:57 PM
-ponders for a bit-
Well, I don't want respect for views to be the norm...I want tolerance for views, and respect for the person, no matter how stupid their views are.
In a forum that is under the general umbrella of trying to seek out truth, ideas must be tried and tested...must be held to the fire, and smacked
around in order to shake out any and all nonsense.
And such engagements can get extremely heated at times when people are passionate.
Also, if you have lots of emotional (or other) investment in your point of view, any attack on that specific view will feel (falsely) that its an
attack on you. In this situation, a person needs to simply grow a thicker skin and realize its the idea or view that is being attacked, not the
But yes, respect the person behind the screen...most of us have no clue who we are talking to beyond a avatar name..for all you know, you might be
debating viciously your best friend, your parent/child, etc...whom you love outside. You don't have to have mirror images with people you enjoy
being with..hell, a bit of debate between friends can actually make for great friends..
I am a hypocrite btw...I do occasionally start sliding into the personal attacks when debating a view for long periods of time. I do try to avoid
that slide, but it happens now and then. I think we are simply designed that way...but, if someone responds to my attack with a simple asking if its
necessary, I feel like a total tool..if they respond with a counter attack, I then engage in a battle of wits. Point being, if you want to "win" at
personal attacks..simply point out that the other side used it...that tends to quickly change the discussion to a more positive discussion.
Nobody is pure here btw..I have seen "enlightened" people all about the peace start going nuclear if you poke their heartfelt views enough times.