For better or worse, government gives handouts to everybody and his brother. We complain about this all the time.
What is special about the contraception issue? Why are we drawing the battle lines here to fight that which is really small potatoes when it comes to
The answer lies in how it makes us feel
. What happens inside your chest, inside your belly, when you hear that a young college-age woman is
having lots and lots of sex and wants you to help her pay for birth control?
Compare that to what you feel when you hear that the government is spending nearly 100 billion dollars to corn and other farmers for no particular
reason. Or more to the point, if somebody told you that amount was going to be increased by the same amount it would cost to pay for birth control in
the current issue.
You may feel indignation there too, but is it of the same flavor
? Why are so many people desperately digging trenches and putting up the
barbed wire and making war cries, for this issue and not that one?
I will answer the question. We are not satisfied by our own sex lives, and it bothers us to hear about others who are. But we cannot admit,
sometimes not even to ourselves, that we are bothered by this, because that very fact
is a mark of shame.
Compare "I don't want to help you pay for contraception because my sex life is a total train wreck and I deeply envy everyone around me who seems to
have a happy sex life, so go find somebody else to buy you pills", with a well-articulated and hard-hitting conservative or libertarian argument
against a government handout.
Which one betrays less of our own shame? Which one positions us above the "masses" rather than below them, enabling us to replace our envy, which we
so desperately wish we could disown, with contempt?
Is it time for us to finally admit that sex is
a big deal? That our lack of it strongly influences our feelings which strongly influence which
battles we pick in life?
People who are getting sex regularly and are happy with their sex lives don't make a big deal about sex and have an appropriately proportionate
response to this issue regardless of which side of it or which side of the economic aisle they fall on. Doesn't it piss you off when somebody who
is having great sex all the time tells you sex is really no big deal? Doesn't it kind of make you feel like a starving person being told by somebody
who is well-fed that food really isn't the be-all and end-all of life?
You may see me as your opponent, but I'm trying to empathize. I think I have made the status of my own sex life sufficiently clear without directly
But we'll never change anything for the better if we aren't even willing to see our own deepest motivations. I don't know how to solve this issue.
But denying our feelings on it is not going to help.
Does your religion forbid you from having these feelings? But do you have them anyway?
Do you think Jesus dislikes emotional honesty, the same Jesus who identified Truth as God?
Heck, let's talk about Jesus for a minute. He disliked hypocrisy a lot
more than he disliked sex. In fact, he really didn't have much to say
about sex at all. About the only thing he said was "You're all doing it in your heads so get off your high horses."
It's humbling. The bitterest pill is administered to the one who is already suffering the most.
But truth is, if swallowed, always a helpful pill, never a harmful one.
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