Bitter, Party of one, Your Table is Ready...

reply to post by daryllyn


Hi, im in my 30 s also and have oesteo arthritus, this also came on suddenly just over 3 years ago , one day i was playing football with my son the next day i couldnt move.I had been having joint pain on and off for years an told it was , first growing pains, then nothing its in my head, then anything else they could come up with.

Now 3 years later and much pain, im stuck in a wheelchair, and your right it does make you so tired and the pain does get you down, my right hand is so bad i can hardly move it, and my left hand is going stiff now too.
my legs dont work lol and i have to wait till im 50 for an operation because as my doctor said , they only last so many years, an it wouldnt be worth it now.i say it would be worth it so i can play football again with my son and go out with my daughters.
My son is amazing he helps me alot, he is only 9 but he understands.
What you do is start every morning with a smile , and every day with a sense of humour,and yes some days it is hard, but you keep going children are wonderful and i dont want to miss any part of there lives.
I have just recently been diagnosed with diabetes as well, so that makes things a bit harder, but keep smiling and see the funny side of what you can its the little things and good friends that make your life worth living to the full.

reply to post by daryllyn


Oh honey, huge hugs for you!

You are allowed to be angry, you are allowed to be confused, you are allowed to be sad, you are allowed to be scared, and you are allowed to cry.

I take it you are newly diagnosed, it will take some time to wrap your head around this. Once the initial shock wears off you will think clearly and what direction you want and need to be with.

But for right now, just be, and breathe and let whatever emotions you are having wash over you. Because whatever you are feeling is normal.

I know how scary it is to get a scary diagnosis, with your first thought being "my babies"

Hopefully you will find a great rhumatoid specialist that you like and trust, that can help you.

Please know I am thinking of you and sending lots and lots of comforting thoughts your way.

One-upping with who has it worse than you, probably won't lift your spirits or reveal a silver lining... but that little man in your picture - that IS your silver lining - he's right in front of you and you are a lucky woman because of him. Keep your head up, think positive (even if only one positive thought a day is what you can manage on a hard day) and don't give up. Hugs.

I am sorry about your pain and will be thinking of you. Before you try too many meds, do some research about the connection between RA and the use of aspartame. Some very good information. They have cured RA in people by removing all aspartame from their diets. Also, Lyme diisease is often misdiagnosied as RA. Lyme can lay domant in your body for years and suddenly appear with a host of debilitating symptoms. It can be treated with strong antibiotics regime. Inflammation is often the culprit. Following a less acidic diet will relieve inflammation.

Just trying to help. You might already be aware of those things. I wish I could do more. Here's a hug!

reply to post by daryllyn



The silver lining is the Truth. Because the lies the doctors are telling you are going to get you more of the pain you went to them for in the first place.

Pain meds will not help (except temporarily). Surgery will not help. Ok? I am telling you with 100% certainty they will not help you whatsoever so you can stop perusing them now. That should be a relief.

Something else you should understand. Everyone gets arthritis. Painful joints. The older you get the more pain you will have. That is life and this is 100% true. EVERYONE. Just understand that your problem is painful joints. Any other information regarding the problem or diagnosis is completely useless. When the doctor phoned and told you you had "rheumatoid arthritis" nothing actually changed. You had sore joints before the call and you have sore joints after. No more or less. If you experience more after the call follow that insight and determine what it might mean.

Because joint pain will increase the older you get, which is true for everyone, you should understand there is no eternal cure. But the relief you can feel can be so complete as to be called a "cure".

Stop taking drugs. They will make you sick and tired.

Now here is the "cure". Are you ready? Change what you eat and drink and you WILL ABSOLUTELY experience a "cure".

I can tell you with 100% certainty it will work to cure your arthritis along with your energy levels.

Cut out ALL meat and dairy. Stop eating processed food. Stop drinking coffee. Lower your sugar intake. Naturally occurring as well as added sugar. NO pop/soda. LOTS of distilled water (distilled, provided you are eating/drinking lots of vegetables)

Eat and drink low glycemic fruit.
Eat and drink vegetables low in purines.

Get a juicer and start juicing. Go totally raw (and low sugar) if you can.

I am telling you with 100% certainty this will work. Is it easy? I don't know.. chances are it will be difficult for you because your lifestyle is one that promotes arthritis. But arthritis sucks.. and i can tell you that the pharmaceutical path is NOT the way to go.

Do this. it will work.

Peace!

[color=dodgerblue]Dear ATS,

Thank you, thank you, thank you for all of the kind words and informative responses. It means a lot.

And for what it is worth, posting this thread was very cathartic. Getting it all out there really made me feel better.

My day started off rough, but ended up being incredibly productive and in the end, I feel pretty good!

I went to the doctor (this was the bad part), came home, played with the kids, cleaned three rooms, made chicken chimichangas with spicy queso for supper, did a ton of laundry, played my guitar (it hurt, but it was awesome and my hands were a little less stiff after), cleaned the kitchen, washed the dishes, put my boys to bed and typed a three page research paper. I am tired. But I feel really good about my productivity. And the paper... because it's due tomorrow (:

I have no idea what will happen or what the future will hold... but I also didn't know either of those things before all this happened. I know many of you are saying to not listen to my doctor, but until I have the time and the money to put into alternative remedies, that is my only choice. We are flat busted. My other half was in a car accident in December and won't be back to work until mid-summer and I have been searching for a job with no luck. Pretty much every extra penny we have is going into the gas tank to get me to school. So, for now, I am going to take my Naproxen and wait until I see the Rheumie.

I am going to try to improve my diet as some mentioned. That is always a good idea no matter what you have going on.

Anyway, thanks again.

reply to post by daryllyn


Hi Darlynn,

Depending on your diet, changing it might actually cost less. Listen, i am being adamant about this because i know what i am saying is objectively true. Just understand that by taking naproxen you are not addressing the cause of joint pain in any way shape or form.

"Naproxen can increase your risk of life-threatening heart or circulation problems, including heart attack or stroke. This risk will increase the longer you use naproxen. Do not use this medicine just before or after having heart bypass surgery (also called coronary artery bypass graft, or CABG).

Seek emergency medical help if you have symptoms of heart or circulation problems, such as chest pain, weakness, shortness of breath, slurred speech, or problems with vision or balance.

Naproxen can also increase your risk of serious effects on the stomach or intestines, including bleeding or perforation (forming of a hole). These conditions can be fatal and gastrointestinal effects can occur without warning at any time while you are taking naproxen. Older adults may have an even greater risk of these serious gastrointestinal side effects."

I'm not trying to be an A hole. But you really should take full responsibility for this. If you leave it to your doctors.. or even me.. you may set yourself up for regret/blame later on.

I suggest TRYING a diet overall. Essentially eliminating things that serve your body in absolutely no way. They are drugs like naproxen and because they are in that class of food/drug you now experiencing the side effects. If you pile another drug on top of this you will experience it's side effects down the road. NO question about it.

This isn't alternative medicine. We are talking about what you eat and drink. The "treatment" requires you doing something for yourself.

So sorry to hear about your situation, but you are WAY stronger than this condition and if you prove that to yourself i promise you will experience something totally liberating.