posted on Mar, 3 2012 @ 08:54 AM
reply to post by Bob Sholtz
That video shows what I have been clumsily trying to get across. Thank you for posting it.
Bully torments victim for days, weeks, months, even
No one pays any attention.
Victim finally has enough, and fights back.
Everyone notices and calls victim a bully and bully a victim.
Bully then gets to continue his bullying because fighting back gets the victim into trouble.
It happens a lot, an awful lot. When a bully is looking for a victim, he gets to choose his time and place. He will typically choose one where he
doesn't get noticed. But when a victim fights back, he doesn't get to choose; he is responding to the bully who has already chosen the time and
place. Plus, once a bully "has his bluff in on" the victim, his actions are not as overt and noticeable as those of the victim when he fights
The end result is that the anti-bullying policies are actually encouraging bullying and discouraging the one thing that stops a bully: resistance from
The really dangerous part is that this situation is not relegated only to a school campus. It happens in everyday life as well. There are people who
take extreme pleasure in tormenting others even as adults, and the same scenario plays out: any attempt to retaliate, to stop the bullying, results in
the victim being labeled as the troublemaker. The adults who engage in this practice are the schoolyard bullies of yesteryear, now all grown up in
body but still mentally a schoolyard bully.
And it never fails that somewhere along the line, someone gets hurt physically... but usually after many more are hurt psychologically.
Our society is upside down and backwards, and it seems everything we try to advance results in a worse problem than before... hence my 'nostalgia'
that perhaps, if we keep getting indications we are making the problem worse, perhaps it would be better if we went back to the drawing board and
started fresh, without all the present additional problems.