reply to post by Dianec
I can understand your worries about you house.....Hope you are able to get help with it..... if those you're reaching out to don't work out, there
are other members here that have often posted about doing that sort of thing.....keep us posted on any results....
I might need to try some of the same....
My childhood home was an older house....when we moved in I was about a year old, there were at least a couple of deaths associated with it, and there
had been a number of residents before us....plus it was built on the site of a Civil War battle.
I often felt there was a presence in the house....but nothing very overt, so I usually convinced myself that it was my imagination for the most part.
I was an only child, and spent a lot of time there by myself when I was growing up. Over the years, I developed a rather deep attachment for the
house, coming to view it as antique treasure that had a personality of it's own.....but still, I am a bit conflicted as to whether it's an entirely
When I was a kid, my Mother was hyper critical, often she seemed to actually 'delight' in making me cry by belittling me for things that I now think
of as ridiculously childish and cruel for any adult to indulge in ....something I would never do to my children. When she became older she did seem
to 'mellow' a bit, but when she became infirm and needed more constant help, I held off on having her live with us, fearing that her cruel streak
could return and be turned on my children....So she eventually went to a nursing home.
She was surprisingly well adjusted and happy there. I visited her nearly every day, and she was almost always cheerfully glad to see me. She had
suffered a pretty sever stroke, so I initially believed that her personality change could be attributed to something the stroke had changed in her
The odd thing was, my father, who had often been something of my ally when I was a kid ....began to exhibit nearly identically, those cruel tendencies
that she had exhibited when I was younger. He even parroted some of the phrasing I remembered her using. It was almost as if they had 'switched'
Was there someting there, in the house that influenced her, and when she was gone it latched onto him? Was it just my imagination?
I still own the house, but it sits empty at the moment....I had really planned to renovate it and and live there after we retired, but my husband was
always somewhat hesitant....finally admitting that sometimes the place gave him the willies....
After he suffered an on the job accident that left him too disabled to tackle renovations, he seemed kinda relieved that he had a good excuse to opt
out of living there.....And if the house could influence the behavior of my parents as I've come to suspect, I'm not so sure it would be a good idea
to subject my husband (and by extension myself) to it's influence...
I have tried to get my kids interested in tackling it, but neither of them want to live there either...even tho they both seemed to enjoyed their over
night visits with Granny and Papa when they were small, my daughter did one time 'dream' there was a child her age hiding in the closet....several
years later, when doing research on the house's history, I found out that a young child did die while living there in the early 1900's ...( I never
did see her, but maybe she did some of the things I was blamed for when I was a kid?....or maybe she
influenced me when I did things that set
my mother off?!)....?