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Originally posted by baalbuster
Originally posted by DestroyDestroyDestroy
Unconditional love and relentless happiness are overrated; as humans we want to experience a broad spectrum of emotions, so it is good to feel anger, sadness, sorrow, grief, happiness, loneliness, etc. All must be in good measure, of course, and while happiness should be a default state of being, it is necessary to indulge in various emotional states. There is nothing wrong with feeling sad if something bad happens, but there is a problem when sadness becomes one's default state. Personally, I'm somewhere between neutral/happy by default.
Indeed, it would be unsettling to react positively to certain situations. Acceptance is one thing, but to react with love towards serial murder would be another.
Originally posted by arpgme
Originally posted by smithjustinb
Originally posted by arpgme
So it is totally possible to feel love and accept (peace) that, and to feel hate and accept (peace) that.
Yes, but at the moment of accepting that which hate, you no longer hate it. However, at the moment of accepting that which you love, you still love it.
So, If you hate something, and you accept that this is the emotion that you feel - that means that you no longer feel that emotion? That doesn't make sense. You are accepting the thing that you hate but also accepting of your emotion to it. It's OK to feel emotions negative and positive which is why they exist.
Originally posted by AceWombat04
Well, objectively speaking, it's possible what we call love - even agape or unconditional humanistic love - is nothing more than a neurotransmitter interaction in our brains, and that our perception of reality as sense of self (and by extension our feelings for other "selves") are all illusory and no more inherent or "true" than color or taste. It's also possible that "happiness" is little more than what rewards us most and hurts us least (physically and neurologically.) It's possible what we call love is an anomaly native to humans and that other intelligent life in the universe is unaware of such concepts entirely for all I know.
Originally posted by Itisnowagain
reply to post by NorEaster
It can not be achieved, it has to be realized. And it tastes fantastic, delicious.
This moment and you are not separate, does 'this' have to be achieved? When you know that it is one, you will feel the love, taste the love, hear the love, see the love and know that it is all love.
It is only mind made stories that are believed to be true that cause the sense of separation. Stop believing the mind, the stories, the concepts and the labels for they hide the truth.edit on 23-2-2012 by Itisnowagain because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by smithjustinb
No. You're twisting my words. I didn't say accept the emotion.
Originally posted by smithjustinb
If it is a negative emotion, like hate, then accepting and/or forgiving THE SITUATION OR ENTITY will resolve that hate and transform it into love.
Originally posted by smithjustinb
All emotions are acceptable and necessary for us to be aware. Our emotions teach us how to behave.
Originally posted by smithjustinb
The universe doesn't want to experience itself as ...
Originally posted by smithjustinb
The universe doesn't want to experience itself as something unworthy of experience. So therefore, respect all.
Originally posted by smithjustinb
The universe doesn't want to experience itself as something mundane. So therefore, see the beauty in all.
Originally posted by smithjustinb
The universe doesn't want to experience itself as something mean. So therefore, be kind.
Originally posted by smithjustinb
The universe doesn't want to experience itself as something unintelligent. So therefore, see the intelligence in all.
Originally posted by smithjustinb
The universe doesn't want to experience itself as something to hate. So therefore, love all.
Originally posted by arpgme
Originally posted by smithjustinb
No. You're twisting my words. I didn't say accept the emotion.
So, you are saying we should accept that which we hate but we shouldn't accept our own natural emotion.
From my perspective, I think we should accept ourselves, and not only other things.
Originally posted by smithjustinb
If it is a negative emotion, like hate, then accepting and/or forgiving THE SITUATION OR ENTITY will resolve that hate and transform it into love.
Just because you accept something that doesn't mean you love it now. You are just accepting it as is but you still have your own preferences. Doesn't mean that you now like or love it just because you are allowing it to be.
Originally posted by smithjustinb
All emotions are acceptable and necessary for us to be aware. Our emotions teach us how to behave.
You just said that you never said to accept the emotion, not you're saying that the emotion is acceptable.
Originally posted by smithjustinb
The universe doesn't want to experience itself as ...
How do you know this?
Originally posted by smithjustinb
The universe doesn't want to experience itself as something unworthy of experience. So therefore, respect all.
So are you saying that just because you don't respect all that means that you are "unworthy" of experience?
If they weren't "worthy" of existing, they wouldn't be here. It is all about acceptance.
Originally posted by smithjustinb
The universe doesn't want to experience itself as something mean. So therefore, be kind.
"Nice" and "Mean" is a social construct. What is "nice" in one place may be "mean" in another.
In America, it is nice for you to take a business card and put it in your pocket, it shows that you care enough to hold on to it. In Japan, not so much, that's mean and to be nice, you should hold it in your hand.
I doubt the universe cares about this, especially since it is subjective...
Originally posted by smithjustinb
The universe doesn't want to experience itself as something unintelligent. So therefore, see the intelligence in all.
Ironic since everyone is born unintelligent and we must learn how to eat, walk, live, as we grow. Yet, it doesn't like this "experience" of unintelligence, even though we are all born this way - and on this planet at least, humans are the only ones with such complex brains to hold language and therefore store information for years to come...
Originally posted by smithjustinb
The universe doesn't want to experience itself as something to hate. So therefore, love all.
Again, how do you know this? If the universe doesn't like "hate" why does it create it? If you choose to be loving, eventually hate will still rise up within you. Now you can choose to release it, but it was still there arising which means that you had no choice but to experience it, if even for a second. Thus, these emotions are not unconditional.
Originally posted by arpgme
reply to post by smithjustinb
Calling others names and saying "because I said so" does not make your statements true. Asking questions and pointing out flaws in a statement is not an indicator of close-mindedness, and calling someone names that you think will insult them demonstrates your defensiveness.
The reason why you believe that accepting your hate will cause one to enjoy it is because you believe the false premise that acceptance is love and when you accept things you love it.
Originally posted by smithjustinb
Just because I don't like diarrhea doesn't mean I'm going to stop eating. It creates hate so it can know how to survive. How do I know the universe doesn't like hate? Because I don't. Since I am one of the universe's subjective viewpoints, then I choose how the universe feels and I choose what it likes to feel.
Originally posted by smithjustinb
Actually, it does make it true in the context of the question you were asking. And if your opinion is contradictory, both of our opinions are still true.
Originally posted by smithjustinb
Actually, for a second there, I kind of hated you. But then I made the choice to accept you and your ignorance. Now I don't hate you anymore. So yeah, I think acceptance is one of the many faces of love.
Originally posted by arpgme
reply to post by biggmoneyme
Can you clarify what you mean by once hate arises you don't go there? Go where? Once you are feelingit... you are already feeling it. If it arises and you have no control and it's the opposite of the emotion you want to stay in "unconditional love" , then it's not really unconditional. Even if go back to a loving state, because you didn't have the power to hold it.
Originally posted by arpgme
reply to post by andersensrm
Even if you control it, the opposite feeling of love (hate) was still there, and therefore the love was not unconditional.
To try to feel love always, and then to still feel hate but to release it to feel love again, is not unconditional.
To feel love always because you choose to and never feel hate because you choose not to, is unconditional.
By difference, with unconditional love you never feel hate, the feeling doesn't arise if it were true unconditional love.
Originally posted by arpgme
reply to post by smithjustinb
Observational information can never make one dumber, but it can destroy belief systems and cause revelations.
Even though what I know to be true comes from observation, I ask questions about another person's beliefs just in case I may have been overlooking something and someone could have given a good explanation.
But even here, you all agree that even if you choose unconditional love, hate will still arise in you, and yes, it is your choice to keep feeling it or not, but the fact that you still feel it and it comes back at times means that the love is not without conditions. This is not belief. This is fact, but it's very definition.
In what way is the universe love?