So,I have my daughters phone now,the fun begins

Originally posted by kdog1982
I can see the ones who have kids and the ones who don't.

As her dad,I have every right to deny all privileges besides food,water,shelter,an education and as safe place to live.
She has all that and way more.
When she breaks the rules,she loses privileges.

Plain and simple.
She knows the rules and chooses to break them knowing the consequences of her actions.

She broke the rules and you committed identity theft. You pretended to be your daughter to her friends. You assumed someone else's identity.

I suppose you wouldn't mind if someone did that to you? The next time you break a rule that is...

You peeps don't get it don't you.
Have you ever heard of pedifiles under the the guise of someone else?
Get a clue,cause obviously you don't.
I will do anything to protect my little girl.

reply to post by boncho


Dear boncho,

Hate to burst your bubble but underage sex has been going on for thousands of years.

Yes it has; however, the number of single and underage parents has exploded in the west. As a parent who might have to raise her children, shouldn't he be concerned?

reply to post by boncho

Really,boncho?
Do you not understand that this is a child?


Beginning to think that the one against this are peds.
Liking to have the little kids have their freedom on the web.

Really makes me wonder what this world is coming to that a parent can't punish their child.
That a parent can't poke their nose in their child's business.

Really.

It's just sad and I'm very disappointed.
I'm taking all your toys away.

reply to post by kdog1982


Keep on ...Keeping on, Brother! You sound like a concerned Dad. Good for you.

Chances are that those who nay say are young themselves and have not learned the real hard lessons of life yet.

I wish you the best with your family....and good luck as well. After all, your kids are now teens...better get the hair dye ready.

reply to post by boncho


Boncho, he didn't reply to any of the texts, so he did not do any identity theft.

And I'm sure that she told her friends at school what a cruel man her father was.

If the kids were smart, they would be messing with KDogs head.

But alas, they're 13 and it takes alot to screw with adult who remembers his teen years.

You know I'm freaking POed.
This is a bunch of freaking bull crap.
F$$k you all and I will parent my child as I see fit.
@&$$&&@&&@@&$@@&&&$@@&$&@&$@@&&&@&
F$&k!!!!!!!!!!,!,!

Originally posted by kdog1982
reply to post by boncho

 

Really,boncho?
Do you not understand that this is a child?


Beginning to think that the one against this are peds.
Liking to have the little kids have their freedom on the web.

Really makes me wonder what this world is coming to that a parent can't punish their child.
That a parent can't poke their nose in their child's business.

Really.

It's just sad and I'm very disappointed.
I'm taking all your toys away.

What are you, Vic Toews now?

Going through your kids phone is not punishment, taking the phone away is. And, to be honest, I'm not even that opposed to monitoring the kids actions, but only under the circumstance that they don't know about it.

(Double standard I have here. In cases like this I think it's alright as long as they don't know about it)

By interacting with people under her number you just socially castrated your daughter for a good while. There is no reason to put her in that position with her friends and classmates at school. It's one of those kneejerk reactions that makes kids do some of the dumbest things trying to get back at their parents, either knowingly or subconsciously.

Makes no sense. You violated your daughter's trust, and gave every social circle around her fodder to use her as a joke.

Maybe had you come up with a ingenious plan to have her talk about these things with you, without even bringing up that you went through her stuff I'd applaud you at your cunning, but all you did was make yourself look like an ass to her, and her an ass to people her age.

Originally posted by TDawgRex
reply to post by boncho

 

Boncho, he didn't reply to any of the texts, so he did not do any identity theft.

And I'm sure that she told her friends at school what a cruel man her father was.

If the kids were smart, they would be messing with KDogs head.

But alas, they're 13 and it takes alot to screw with adult who remembers his teen years.

Actually no. This is a direct quote from the OP:

So now I get these messages from boys,I play with them awhile,then I reveal myself to them

So I guess we should ask the OP the specifics of how he "plays" with the boys.



This too I find funny. The OP is saying how he does all this because some old man could be pretending to be a kid and come after his daughter. Yet, he is an old man threatening a bunch of teenage boys on his daughter's phone... and somehow that is okay?



If it were my son the OP was messaging, I would want to deal with the person right away. As maybe the OP should have dealt with the parent in the original incident in question.

reply to post by kdog1982

You know I'm freaking POed.
This is a bunch of freaking bull crap.
F$$k you all and I will parent my child as I see fit.
@&$$&&@&&@@&$@@&&&$@@&$&@&$@@&&&@&
F$&k!!!!!!!!!!,!,!

This was foreseeable. You did wrong and came online to boast about it. What did you expect?

Originally posted by kdog1982
You peeps don't get it don't you.
Have you ever heard of pedifiles under the the guise of someone else?
Get a clue,cause obviously you don't.
I will do anything to protect my little girl.

Pedophiles under the guise of someone else?

You mean like a much older man texting middle school boys pretending to be a girl?

Originally posted by kdog1982
You know I'm freaking POed.
This is a bunch of freaking bull crap.
F$$k you all and I will parent my child as I see fit.
@&$$&&@&&@@&$@@&&&$@@&$&@&$@@&&&@&
F$&k!!!!!!!!!!,!,!

Lol then why'd you come looking for opinions?

reply to post by boncho

Oh,but we did talk to her about this,and she knows I have her phone and I told her that her phone is mine and that I will chat with who ever pops on there to find out who they are.
She had fair warning for two weeks to let her friends know.
So,when some dude named gerrome starts chatting with me to night,I thought I would play along for a couple of messages before I told him who I was.

Turns out to be some 30 year old Cuban..
Yea,that's right,
I tracked down his phone number.
I notified the police.
There you go.

We've raised a 22, 18, 13, and 6 yr old. ALL GIRLS.

**bangs head for having all girls and wishing cell phones had never been invented because when they asked Im weak and I couldnt say no! **

Privacy is one thing, setting up secret meetings, sending suggestive pics, and etc with my minor daughters is another. Our 18 year old was seeing a little boy when she was just about 16. Seeing as in at school, out house to play games, his house when parents were home to play basketball, and sometimes when a fair or whatever came along we would bring him along with us. He was a nice polite kid we enjoyed having around.The older brother of this kid was 23 and texted her a pic of his erect penis. She kept this quiet and never told us - but I popped a surprise cell inspection. And immediately went berzerk. My wife went into orbit. We drove over to the house to confront the ADULT and he said it was only a "joke" and had no idea why we were so upset. It was resolved, believe me. When discussing this with the guy's parents in his presence and mentioning calling the police and pressing charges it was all of a sudden not so funny to him or them. Especially when the accompanying text said " do you want to meet my little friend". Soliciting minors and sending pornographic images to them is a no-no. Our daughter didnt suffer any social repercussions and we still enjoyed having the kid over , ( but she never went back over to his house) and she learned to tell us about what she calls "creepers". Letting us find out on our own was not the way to go!

WIth your children that you are responsible for privacy takes a back seat. Kids are just not equipped to see all of the bad out there and the things lurking in others. Predators are pretty slick and kids are easily caught up in things because being online or texting isnt quite "real life" to them. In reality, its an open doorway into your home and to your children. Our daughter generally sees only the best in people and never dreamed this would happen. The wife and I figured it might and were definitely going to check the phone. Its your duty as a parent.

I will say you texting the kids back is pretty damned creepy and if you had texted my child and Id found out you were an adult, youd have met me. Learn from that mistake and take the adult to adult road - NEVER mess with anyones kid even if itsin retaliation for something that kid may have done you find to be bad. What you think is cute or funny or your attempts to discipline or teach a lesson to someone elses kid may cause you to suffer consequences you hadnt considered. You have also possibly destroyed her socially and when the kids tell their parents, you will be looked at by some as a threat or potential threat. That sort of behavior is just not acceptable. Live and learn.

Take her phone for a period of time you discuss with her and discuss with her WHY you took the phone and what you expect in the future from her. Then return the phone with a clean slate (but vigilant eye) at the time you told her. Let her know what you will be doing and how you will be doing it when monitoring her. At 13 she isnt a fool.

reply to post by boncho


Crap! Ya got me. I forgot that line.

But I see a concerned Dad overall.

I think that the problem is age old. Parents and Teens have a problem communicating.

My Ex's Teen always asked how I caught him doing various things. My reply to him was that I never forgot what it was like to be a teenager.

I still embrace my inner child to this day.

reply to post by Astyanax


He has ALL the right to do what he wants with inanimate objects,such as phones................that hes paid for.



Seriously,he pays the bills,and I see nothing wrong with it actually.

Bet you Eric Harris and Dylan Klebolds parents would have wished THEY snooped a bit more,hey ????

I sure do.

Originally posted by kdog1982
reply to post by boncho

 

Oh,but we did talk to her about this,and she knows I have her phone and I told her that her phone is mine and that I will chat with who ever pops on there to find out who they are.
She had fair warning for two weeks to let her friends know.
So,when some dude named gerrome starts chatting with me to night,I thought I would play along for a couple of messages before I told him who I was.

Turns out to be some 30 year old Cuban..
Yea,that's right,
I tracked down his phone number.
I notified the police.
There you go.

I'm not sure why you wouldn't outline that in your OP then. How did you find out he was a 30 year old Cuban?

Originally posted by kdog1982
reply to post by boncho

 

Oh,but we did talk to her about this,and she knows I have her phone and I told her that her phone is mine and that I will chat with who ever pops on there to find out who they are.
She had fair warning for two weeks to let her friends know.
So,when some dude named gerrome starts chatting with me to night,I thought I would play along for a couple of messages before I told him who I was.

Turns out to be some 30 year old Cuban..
Yea,that's right,
I tracked down his phone number.
I notified the police.
There you go.

Lol you didn't really suppose anyone here would buy that story did you?

reply to post by sonnny1

He pays the bills,and I see nothing wrong with it actually.

Well, you've already confessed to doing the same thing he does – spying on the conversations of teenagers. Only in your case it was teenage girls, wasn't it?

:shk:

I really don't think someone who spies on the text messages of teenage girls who are NOT his daughter has the moral authority to defend someone who stalks teenage boys.

Originally posted by Hawking

Originally posted by kdog1982
reply to post by boncho

 

Oh,but we did talk to her about this,and she knows I have her phone and I told her that her phone is mine and that I will chat with who ever pops on there to find out who they are.
She had fair warning for two weeks to let her friends know.
So,when some dude named gerrome starts chatting with me to night,I thought I would play along for a couple of messages before I told him who I was.

Turns out to be some 30 year old Cuban..
Yea,that's right,
I tracked down his phone number.
I notified the police.
There you go.

Lol you didn't really suppose anyone here would buy that story did you?

I must not have seen that post. Here I was being all serious like a fool and trying to help out with all of my years of experience and grey hair (well whats left of it anyway) from raising girls to pass on to the guy.