posted on Feb, 21 2012 @ 02:27 PM
Well I had to get it off my chest and tell to my western friends here. For those of you who don't know what it is, Dowry is the payment in cash or
some kind of gifts given to bridegroom's family along with the bride. Despite being illegal, it is still practiced in many parts of India.
The bad thing about this is the financial burden on the bride's family. I have seen many father who are more concerned about his daughter's marriage
and especially the dowry money than her education. It is fine for them to invest money to "BUY" a good husband for her than to send her to a better
educational institution for better education. And then comes more problems with this evil Dowry system. Groom's family treats the bride badly after
marriage just because they were not satisfied with the dowry amount and they want more. There are many dowry death cases where either the groom's
family either beats the bride to death or the bride commits suicide due to ill behavior with her. I am not telling you this after hearing it from
someone or watching the news on TV. But I speak this from my first hand experience here.
Last year my aunt came to our house during holidays for a week. She was searching a good girl for her son and asked my mother if she knew any good
girl for marriage. My mother recommended a girl and she called her mom to arrange the meet. After my mother and aunt came back after meeting the girl
and her family, my aunt told me that they are paying too less and her son deserves more money. She didn't ever cared about the girl, the money
was the more important factor. It is like they are buying and selling relationships. I can't even report this illegal practice to the police as
all these people have friends in high places and also the police can be easily bribed and instead I will be harmed/killed by those whom I have
The problem doesn't ends here, middle class families manage to follow this system but the people who barely make their living gets crushed under
this. And the worst thing is that my family too sees no evil in dowry system. Feels so sick to live among these people, watch them do these bad
things and I can't do #.