posted on Feb, 21 2012 @ 06:16 PM
No, nice guys do not finish last... I am living proof.
I was brought up to respect women, treat them as equals, be sensitive to their feelings and needs... OK.
Now that does not mean that dating women and finding a relationship is easy. Girls used to scare the crap out of me, I was unsure and lacked
confidence, and I was OK looking... Not a stud, not Quasimodo... somewhere in between and most girls looked right past me.
BUT, at your age, most girls...underline the word GIRLS... like the bad boy, rebel, thug kind of guy... until he cheats on them with their sister, or
room mate, or slaps them and gives them a black eye or split lip....then it isn't fun anymore.
After my divorce, I dated women.. underline the word WOMEN. I found that most sigle women in their 30s had been the victims of "use, abuse, and
lose"... and after our first date... they were like..."Wow, you really are a nice guy." I didn't make any lewd comments, I actually listened to
them, carried on a conversation, was polite and respectful, I didn't make a pass, I paid for the meals and activities, was a gentleman, and I didn't
make the first move... I left it to them.
Honestly, by the third or fourth date... they were coming on to me. Like clockwork...and this always amazed me... it would be time for me to leave
their apartment, house, whatever... and we would be at the door about to kiss goodnight...and they would always... and I mean always say... " You
don't have to go if you don't want to."
Well... that was it...
Now, that's not to say they don't want a badboy or rebel... just a civilized, "safe" rebel/ outlaw. Most guys want their "Mom" in the kitchen,
the "girl next door" out in public, and a "whore" in bed. Well, most women... at least the ones I dated and the one I married... want the security
of a working man/dad figure, a romantic, playful, consistant guy in public, and they want the bad boy/outlaw in the bed... maybe a little domineering,
maybe a little love spank for being a "badgirl"...
Anyway, follow your heart and realize that somewhere out there is a nice, mature, and fun girl that is maturing into a woman...and she is looking for
a nice, consistant, respectful, caring young man to love.... just don't be too predictable... always stand your ground, have principles and ideals...
most of the girls at that age are shallow... just like most of the guys. Maturity comes around about 25-30... and suddenly those things that were
important are not anymore... keep looking.