posted on Feb, 21 2012 @ 02:16 PM
This is something I'm worried over. I'm 18 and am one of those "nice guys". I'm not a pushover. I'm not very shy, but do sometimes get nervous
around a girl I like. I try to be nice and polite to everyone. Without trying to sound conceited, I see myself as relatively attractive. I've had
people tell me I'm "cute" or above-average at the very least. And my friends tell me that they think I'm a great guy.
Don't get me wrong, there are girls that like me, but it's not mutual. I do try and give them a chance, and try to get to know them. But I don't
feel anything with them and don't want to lead them on. One time I asked out a girl I didn't really like but who liked me and my friends were
pressuring me to ask her out. NEVER AGAIN. The date was horrible. I think she enjoyed it, but I spent the entire time waiting for it to end and ended
up cutting it short because I claimed my brother called me and needed to be picked up. So now I have a standard that I have to be physically attracted
to her and have to feel something. That's pretty much it. There is 1 girl who I get along really well with and am very attracted to, where it's
mutual, but she lives 3000 miles away on the west coast, so we're only Internet friends, albeit close friends
But girls my age that I like just don't seem interested in me. They go for the jerk or bad boy. I mean, I don't go for the beauty model type. I go
for the girls that seem "cute" and I get along with. But they're just not interested. Whenever I ask for advice, people say things like "nice guys
finish last" and "nobody wants a nice guy" and say I need to be more confident. The thing is, I am confident, but I have anxiety which makes me
seem unconfident. It's a medical thing, I actually take anxiety medication for it. But it's less than I probably need. If we up the dosage, I lose
the ability to feel emotion, so I have to deal with a lower dosage and a little less anxiety.
So here's the question: do nice guys finish last, or is there an age where girls get tired of jerks and start dating nicer guys? And are there more
girls who are tolerant and can look past anxiety issues that a guy has to the person inside?