Originally posted by adigregorio
reply to post by LilDudeissocool
What two way street?
People go after what they want.
That's it, super simple and super sweet. "Why do the nice guys go after the users?" Because it is what they want. Also, the "user" tends to be
more attractive than the offended party. (To the person choosing)
I don't see how this is such a hard concept to grasp. But yes people go for what they want or are attracted to, it is true of everybody on this
planet be they male or female, and has been true for all of history and prehistory....There is nothing else to it.
And all that we add or prescribe to is just part of that, like clothes we take them with us everywhere we go for comfort, necessity, to show of our
colors, and off course for peacocking purposes. If there is such a thing as nice guy or nice girl like I said it must be in the minority,
something like 5% or something. The rest is just semantics, viewpoints, perspectives, and games.
If anything this is just a different point of view that males and females have on things. Which is just nominal, that being a thing that is exactly
as you call it. The suit does make the man.
I think it is one thing that got taken to far by people, mostly females and especially given the fact that as anybody knows or who has read a biology
book or taken biology 101 it is a thing of options, and those options drive things. A difference in perspectives between male and females, basically
being that yes its a game, and nice guys do finish last, after all how could something that is in a low percentage not finish last.
It just seems that the odds are against them, for they must find the 5% were as everybody must find the 95%. No doubt there confused, and being con
fused is the worse way to fuse anything together. So anybody that tries that way, is destined to fail.
And the rest seems to be a game like I said, and especially among females which during there different periods through out there life, you know bad
boy phase, good boy phase, all that junk. I suppose one can say they can afford to go trough all that, since after all as most people if not all know.
That due to biology and nature it is almost impossible for a female to not find a male. In fact if there anywhere good looking they would have to
work and try really hard at not finding someone to achieve that goal. Which is just another reason why its so hard to believe them when they say they
cant find anybody.
But even that has its shortcomings it's ups, and downs.... I suppose.
Really most times all they have to do is just hang around were dudes hang out and eventually something will happen, what that something is? or if it
be good or bad? I don't think they care all that much, or as much as they say that they do. But time has told that in time they do.
And for dudes, it is all just a matter of things, situation in life, money, job, and a whole other host of things on a long list which I wont
list because it would be to long. And the only option are the options given in that list, of which nice guy is a thing that is somewhere close to
the bottom. Because as everybody knows contradictory to what the ladies say, it is not a thing high on there lists when they look for dudes or
potential mates, a byplay it seems to be like I said earlier.
Most dudes know this because they can not afford to not know this, and it is driven in there heads everyday by many things, in daily life least of
all the media. Most females do not especially if there really good looking, because they can afford to not know it and no doubt they to have it
beaten in to there heads in daily life by many things most of all being the media.
And like everything else people do the things that they do because they can and want to. So ultimately in the end everybody goes for what they want,
no matter the games they play to get to and reach those ends.
The real question is, why would someone want an guy (or girl) that was not interested in them?
Many reasons me thinks, I however can only assume and deduct on it. Because I have never had that urge, or if I had it was gone moments after I
learned they were not really interested.
It is something one can only ask themselves, because it is a personal soul searching question. So maybe dude, and everybody else, should just ask
themselves why they want somebody that is not interested in them?
If anything I bet you that the above question is at the root of the problems the op is musing about, and the answers are really not all that hard to