reply to post by calstorm
Say what! I thought there was no such thing as nice guys. Even read it on this site, could probably link threads if I cared to.
But no I think the nice guy or the nice girl is kind of like a myth. People generally go for whatever there attracted to and want, or in most if
not all males cases for whatever comes there way in the right time, while in the right frame of mind, really you would be surprised how much
circumstances especially the circumstances of everyday life play into this, and everything tugs in hundreds of different ways and directions when
it comes to this subject. Well at least for me they do. Sometimes it seems to be just a toss of the dice, and sometimes you just toss the dice so
you can decide on one direction and get it over with.
I don't consider myself a nice guy, more like a nice enough guy. And I think that is what most everybody else is.
Though mostly I am just
beyond weird, not compatible and have been that ever since young. And as such, I don't even bother with such things it plays to much in my mind,
that game got old a few lifetimes ago for me, and besides I know how that game will end and were its going, so I just humor it till it and they move
on. And that seems to be the story so far.
But mostly from what I seen and observed "nice" or anything as such has very little to do with anything. If anything its just a byplay, and to
even tell more truth! I don't think I have ever actually seen a girl say that and not be attracted and go like a heat seeking missile to exactly
the opposite of what they said.
But mostly as we know both females and males don't really want or like nice guys as much as they say they do. Or if they do it is something that is
in the minority, and ok I will admit that by nature I am nice, but the ladies do seem to be looking in my direction more when I play the bad boy
which then for some reason I pop onto there radar. And when I play myself I disappear from there radar again.
There are some
discrepancies between what people say and what people do in both men and women, but actions tell there motives true. And the end tale is told by
many on this relationship section of ATS.
Have you ever played grand theft auto? Or any like video-game, one thing you would notice is that when you get a new car you never drove before or
seen around much and you drive it around in that game world...You will see that same car everywhere you go, when previously it was nowhere to be
seen. The game is programmed to do that.
And in some ways so is the game called life. If you look close you will notice that we only notice what we want to see. Such as in your response to
Calnorak, you only saw what you wanted to see when he said something totally different. It is a habit that we all have.
Why do the nice guys go after the users?
The answer is that they go for the users because they want to, and like to, it is what they have in there sights, in there minds eye. But to be a
user is one thing, and to be and abuser is another, but one does lead into the other at the drop of the hat.