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Originally posted by Drezden
That doesn't sound like the environment that you want to work on social awkwardness in, it's too negative and aggressive to be conducive to this. People in the high functioning autism spectrum, whatever you want to call it, have social awkwardness like you describe, saying things that other people think are offensive without realizing it.. or moving around while listening to people talk..etc..edit on 2/17/2012 by Drezden because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by Teriq
i just have one question after you said "you people" to the African American people did they beat you up just wondering since you live in Baltimore...
PS - and to help you with your problems do the opposite of what your instincts tells you to do
Originally posted by aboutface
I don't know if you have difficulties with boundaries but my relative has, such as discussing with his friends many aspects of my life that I consider private, such as my mail and some of my conversations. He didn't realize at the time that his brief tidbits of revelation were offensive to me nor did he understand why I should object. My actions and habits, my salary and finances, my beliefs and his weird interpretation of them, everything was exposed to them without mercy until I felt so violated that I simply had to cut ties with him. He just could not understand that there are mutual social boundaries I expect him to respect. I love him dearly, but I reached the end of my rope, no longer able to deal with him. I'm just telling you this in case it might ring a bell somewhere and if so it will give you something to work on. No insult to you is intended. Wishing you all the best.
Originally posted by stormson
reply to post by mossme89
p.s. as an adult, learn the language of sports. pick a popular one in your area. then you can go almost anywhere and start a conversation. i dont like most sports (especially basketball; if you can score 50x in one game the game is too easy), but i follow just enough to bs my way through a conversation. think of it as learning a new language.edit on 18-2-2012 by stormson because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by ufos8mycow
I think we should ask the OP before we go any further 'Do you often fantasize about Jodie Foster?'
Originally posted by mossme89
I'm somewhat socially awkward. Nothing too bad, but lots of little things that end up offending people or making them dislike me. I'm not sure how to fix these things. What do you think?
Originally posted by TheAnswerTo1984
reply to post by mossme89
Do yourself a favor and stop taking the meds. All of them. Now. Seriously. You're like what? 20 years old? You're supposed to be hyper. You're supposed to have tons of energy and walk around while you're talking to people. It's normal.
Originally posted by acmpnsfal
Reply to post by mossme89
I have a question. How many people are in your class? I mean the few individuals you mentioned will always be somewhere. Somebody will always have a problem with something you do. They you people thing should be obvious is all over pop culture mostly comedies where a white person will say you people to a minority group or vice versa and an awkward silence follows. Just steer clear of the phrase to save yourself headaches. The other stuff is not a problem. If you say something people dont like and they challenge you stand your ground if you are wrong then you learned something new. Really what this boils down to is you need to be comfortable with you. You have a choice. If you dont like who you are work towards changing it. If you like who you are but feel like others dont grow thicker skin. Personally my sociology classes were my favorite because it picks apart society and says whats wrong with it. Some of the discussions we had in those classes got heated at times but it was soooo worth it. Lol. Hope this helped in some way.
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Originally posted by TheAnswerTo1984
reply to post by SilverStarGazer
Agreed. You know I can choose to like or dislike someone based on who they are, but when I see someone that's just obviously so fake that they will say anything that they think you want to hear... it makes me want to puke. For God's sake grow a spine and have an opinion!
Originally posted by arollingstone
reply to post by mossme89
Sounds like a lot of the people you listed really need to get a life. The 'you people' group were oversensitive, that teacher would probably give you a hard time if you spent the whole time staring into space too and your group, especially that girl, need to pull their heads out their backsides. Standing up or sitting down too much? Next time says that, you should either stand up or sit down even more, really annoy her.
Originally posted by mossme89
I should add that my teacher is somewhat petty with this as well. When I was sitting crooked in my seat, with my seat facing forward and sitting sideways on it to face my group, she said I should turn around to face the group. I mean wtf? Why does that even matter? And what should I do, because she IS the teacher?
Originally posted by SilverStarGazer
reply to post by getreadyalready
Quite possibly the most ridiculous thing I've read all week. This kind of thinking is what has got our society in the place that we're in. Conform! Be like everyone else! Drink your Kool-aid! Are you kidding me? This kind of bs is exactly what we need to get rid of. I understand that you're trying to help, and you believe in what you've said. I'm not trolling... I just HIGHLY disagree with perpetuating behaviors that are socially acceptable versus the betterment of society as a whole.
The last thing we need is more FAKE people in this world...