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Any advice on how to be less socially awkward?
Originally posted by mossme89
It's little things like this that make people judge me and dislike me. I'm not sure how to fix these things other than experience, or if I shouldn't worry about people who are so quick to judge. What do you think?
-Today I was working in a group with a few african american people and I said "so what do you people want to do?" They found me saying "you people" offensive. I just don't get how that's offensive. It's one thing if I say a racist name, it's another thing to say something like this. I don't see how the words "you" and "people" are offensive.
-I have ADHD and have a hard time sitting still. Sometimes while working in groups, I'm standing up and walking around when talking to people. That's just me, I work best when I'm moving around and thinking and many times don't even realize i'm doing this. But my group members said they found this intimidating.
-My teacher sometimes gives me a hard time because while she's talking, she says I stare at her. I don't do this intentionally but sometimes stare off when I'm thinking.
Originally posted by TheAnswerTo1984
reply to post by Quauhtli
Adhd doesn't exist. Just like depression doesn't exist. If you're sad be happy. You don't need a pill to make you happy just the same as you don't need a pill to make you pay attention. Find something you're interested in or burn some energy. It's all a scam to sell bullcrap zombie pills and I will never buy into it. Why? Because these things didn't exist 100 years ago. All of a sudden we just invent new diseases and cures for # that never existed through the 5000+ years we've been here? BS.
No more. I'm sick of the political correct BS. You're not African American you're black. You're not depressed your life just sucks. And you don't have adhd you just have too much damn energy probably because you're like 20 years old. That's how you're supposed to act.
I'm done. Nobody is going to agree with my rant anyway. Everything thinks there's a magic pill to fix whatever. You don't lose weight from taking a pill you get off the couch and take a walk you whale. Same concept.
Originally posted by curious7
reply to post by TheDarkestHour
I agree with the medication thing but everything else you said smacks of someone who clearly has no idea what it's like.
Not everyone can do what you suggested, it's psychological and geneticaly programmed to be how we are. It's hard for those who are naturally confident to understand that.