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Originally posted by mossme89
*1 'there's a lot of shady looking people in there' 'they seem to find a lot of issues with many of the things I say or my mannerisms and are very quick to judge'
*2 'I said "so what do you people want to do?" They found me saying "you people" offensive'
*3 'I have ADHD and have a hard time sitting still.' 'I work best when I'm moving around and thinking... But my group members said they found this intimidating.'
*4 'My teacher sometimes gives me a hard time because while she's talking, she says I stare at her.
*5 'I'm an introvert and my group sometimes gives me a hard time because I'm not constantly talking like they are.'
*6'There's this one girl in my group who seems to find fault with much of what I do and what I mentioned above, moreso than others.'
*7'It's little things like this that make people judge me and dislike me.'
Originally posted by TheDarkestHour
If you have a problem with ADHD, take medication. (prescribed or alternative)
When you're in a group, don't address the group as a separate entity. You're a part of it, aren't you?
By the way, "you people" while addressing a group of African Americans can come off as being a douche. Duh?
People don't feel uncomfortable making eye contact while you talk to them or while you're listening to them. Staring incessantly is rude, unless you're trying to get some chick in the sack don't make such intense eye contact.
Keep what you have to say, short and concise. The less words, the better.
Try not to be such a square, if it's not a formal meeting makes jokes and laugh. Smile. Be happy. It spreads like wildfire.
Go out. Talk to strangers. Start a conversation with everyone. Don't be weird about it. Simple conversation topics will get you on the right path.
If someone pushes you, don't take it like a chump. No one likes a wimp.
Most importantly, stop being so self-conscious. The minute you start thinking "Am I being weird?", guess what? You're being weird. Relax dude. It's only life.
Originally posted by mossme89
I'm somewhat socially awkward. Nothing too bad, but lots of little things that end up offending people or making them dislike me.
Originally posted by jewdiful
before i became socially adept, i realized a few other things. first, people are usually lost inside their own worlds, egos really. they're not gonna pay others much attention unless they have a reason too, i.e. someone who gives off awkward vibes or displays obvious discomfort. also, they love talking about themselves. a great way to expedite this process of yours is to make the bulk of your interactions about whoever you're talking to. ask them questions and let them do most of the talking (sounds like you already do this, which is good! but don't not talk at all. ask questions, like i said!). be a good listener. they'll be too busy thinking about themselves and what they're saying to even consider where you fall on the awkward spectrum.
realize that your perception is completely your choice and 100% within your control.