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Originally posted by LadySkadi
Originally posted by mossme89
reply to post by LadySkadi
It doesn't change how I treat them.
Yes it does. Non-verbal cues. Something like 85-90% of someone's communication. If you don't see this then it's understandable that you don't "get" why they are reacting to you as they are. You need to realize that you have some responsibility here.
Originally posted by getreadyalready
reply to post by mossme89
"Why do you people sit in the back of the class?"
Now, what did I mean by that? Did I mean back of class sitters? Did I mean black folks? Did I mean stoners? Frat boys? What exactly am I asking? Is it offensive? Maybe. Maybe it is supposed to be offensive? Maybe I'm calling all the people in the back slackers! In fact, I did use that phrase, as an instructor, at a work meeting, and I meant they were not participating, and I made them move to the front!
Originally posted by LadySkadi
reply to post by getreadyalready
Using the phrase "you people" sets the speaker apart from those who are being labeled/addressed under the phrase. That can be contrued as offensive, depending on the situation and on the speaker vs the group addressed. Factor in tone and attitude and non-verbals and it sets him up for a tricky situation.
Originally posted by LadySkadi
reply to post by getreadyalready
Using the phrase "you people" sets the speaker apart from those who are being labeled/addressed under the phrase. That can be contrued as offensive, depending on the situation and on the speaker vs the group addressed. Factor in tone and attitude and non-verbals and it sets him up for a tricky situation.
Originally posted by Damrod
What a crap ass service...decent services let you see the post you are responding to and actually include it in your post/repsonse...this is BS at it's thickest and stinkiest....junk....sucks if you invested here...but it will die from stupidity...
Take your money and invest it wisely....i know...affording opinion is good but backing stupid is not...
Originally posted by LadySkadi
Originally posted by Damrod
What a crap ass service...decent services let you see the post you are responding to and actually include it in your post/repsonse...this is BS at it's thickest and stinkiest....junk....sucks if you invested here...but it will die from stupidity...
Take your money and invest it wisely....i know...affording opinion is good but backing stupid is not...
That was a perfect tension breaker.
*Whatever it meant, still not sure
Bizarre
Originally posted by mossme89
reply to post by getreadyalready
Whoa, whoa wait. No I said it without thinking. That might have been the issue.
I only backtracked because my teacher got mad at me for saying that. And I'm not trying to play the victim it seriously was just an offhand thing.
Free e-book (hurry and grab it) called, "How to Win Friends and Influence People - Dale Carnegie.pdf "
Originally posted by ofhumandescent
Most people say they are open minded and want to expand their level of acceptance but in reality I have found they don't they're closed minded and proud of heart on core issues.
Originally posted by mossme89
reply to post by LesMisanthrope
If I pretend to be someone else, then I'm no better than them.