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Originally posted by NoClue206
1 - pick up your favorite beer
2 - drink said beer*
3 - go into any public place
4 - talk to random people, you never have to see them again anyway
* - repeat this step when needed
-Today I was working in a group with a few african american people and I said "so what do you people want to do?" They found me saying "you people" offensive. I just don't get how that's offensive. It's one thing if I say a racist name, it's another thing to say something like this. I don't see how the words "you" and "people" are offensive.
-I have ADHD and have a hard time sitting still. Sometimes while working in groups, I'm standing up and walking around when talking to people. That's just me, I work best when I'm moving around and thinking and many times don't even realize i'm doing this. But my group members said they found this intimidating.
-My teacher sometimes gives me a hard time because while she's talking, she says I stare at her. I don't do this intentionally but sometimes stare off when I'm thinking.
-I'm an introvert and my group sometimes gives me a hard time because I'm not constantly talking like they are. They say I'm not contributing. I mean, I do. I'm just not constantly talking.
-There's this one girl in my group who seems to find fault with much of what I do and what I mentioned above, moreso than others. I'm sitting on my chair wrong, I'm not talking enough, I'm standing up too much, etc. I don't know why, but she has an attitude towards me and doesn't like me. Then again, she has an attitude in general so I'm not sure if it's just me.
Originally posted by getreadyalready
reply to post by AwakeinNM
Actually I agree, and I said something similar way back in the thread.
This is a college student, not a Jr. High student. Yes, if he has social problems, drinking will help! It loosens up your inhibitions, it puts you in a social situation, it helps you overcome your insecurities and eventually you'll be able to act differently without the alcohol.
It isn't the only advice the kid has received, there are plenty of other ways, but this is certainly a valid one to consider.
You essentially told him to conform to the norm so he can be 'normal'. Isn't it the 'norm' in America to disregard 90% of the topics talked about on this website, isn't that why this website was created in the first place, as an alternative platform for discussion outside of the 'norm'?