reply to post by mossme89
But seriously, there is a philosophy called, "Fake it til you make it." It works for some people. You observe and mimic the behavior you want to
portray as yourself. You create a persona of the person you want to be, and you act out that persona until it becomes second nature.
And, a small bit of advice...... nobody respects political correctness. There are very few "African Americans." That would mean they were born in
Africa and moved here. We have mostly Americans, that happen to be black. They know they are black, we know we are white, so trying to say things
too appropriately makes one sound even more racist. Just be straightforward, and if there is something about another culture you don't understand,
ask them straight up.
If a teacher is talking, and you are staring, isn't that what you are supposed to be doing? Seems odd the teacher would take notice of that, but it
sounds like maybe you are perceived "creepy" in some way. This should be an easy fix, you probably were just never aware of it before.
When you listen, you should "actively" listen. Nod, smile, react to the words, shake your head, take some notes, etc. If you are picturing your
teacher naked, then you probably shouldn't stare. If your mind is somewhere else entirely, then you are wasting time in the class. Listen to the
teacher, and focus on the words, and the lesson, and make the class useful.
If you really are racist, then be racist, be honest, during sociology discussions, let your point of view be known, but also be open to other points
of view and hopefully your horizons will be expanded and your racism will evaporate. If you are not really racist, but actually just naive, then let
that be known as well. Qualify your statements with, "I don't really know much about black people, or the culture, but I have observed....x, or I
have noticed....x, or I have heard..... x, is that incorrect?"
Let them educate you, that is the whole point of the class isn't it?
Fake it til you make it.
Don't be embarrassed about trying this philosophy by the
way. I've known many superstars that were extremely shy in personal settings. Everyone has a persona they hide behind. At least make it a persona
you can appreciate and enjoy. Join a Toastmasters or Rotary Club, volunteer at a Children's Hospital, Shadow and Emcee or a DJ and do something way
out of your normal character and see how it goes!
10 ways to Feel More
-- Let me also add, that even one week at a gym will make you feel like a stud! First off, the gym is intimidating, and you won't fit
in, and you will feel even more stupid, but find a big guy, ask him how to get big like him, and you will have a lifelong buddy! Guys at the gym LOVE
to share their secrets and mentor a beginner. If you work out a single time, and get sore, you will feel like you've already gained muscle. It is
somehow psychosomatic, but I guarantee one good workout will make you feel more confident.
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Fake it til you make it -- How confidence can make you successful.
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