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Originally posted by ottobot
Yes, it is incredibly difficult for me to allow myself to be vulnerable.
I have many problems with trusting others, and learned quite young to shield myself to avoid being hurt by the actions of others. In attempting not to hurt others with my actions, I hurt myself. In attempting not to hurt others with my words, I hurt myself. I essentially became very submissive and meek so that people would have no reason to hurt me.
Except that this gave them more reason to want to hurt me. And I started to think that I deserved to be hurt anyway, because it must have been my fault that they wanted to hurt me in the first place.
In this endless loop of self-hate, self-rejection, and pain I have been stuck for 95% of my life.
Realistically, I am the only one that hurts me.
When I do not follow my intuition or feelings, I end up hurting myself in the past, present, and future.
When I think badly of myself, I end up hurting myself in the past, present, and future.
So, I am learning to think differently and see the world differently.
In this process. I will eventually be able to trust and love myself and (by extension) others.
Originally posted by greyer
Self-hate doesn't have to do with the outer-world. It has to do with your personality, if you got with the wrong crowd when you were growing up. If you feel that you found the wrong crowd remake yourself to what you like, there has to be a group in the world for everybody because it's so diverse. There is no reason to hate ourselves unless we make the wrong decisions, so like me let's make the right ones today right now. It is only actions, so when you do that it is a mixture of thoughts and actions. Simply a translation of sitting down or standing up.
Originally posted by ottobot
Can the family you are born into be "the wrong crowd"? Because, that's where all my self-hate problems stem from... that life I was born into.
Originally posted by ottobot
I definitely realize that I theoretically have no reason to hate myself. I do the right thing in my current life and have tried to do that right thing all along. Unfortunately, I didn't realize when I was young that doing the right thing means it must also be the right thing for me, not just other people. :-/
So, in my present I am dealing with the repercussions of "right things for others" I did in my past, and trying to figure out how to do the "right thing for myself and my family" so as not to completely screw up my future. I'm at a loss.
Originally posted by ottobot
Not hating myself is much easier said then done. I've hated myself as long as I can remember, and my first memory is from when I was about 15 months old. (It is a memory of my younger sister coming home and me thinking, "She's so ugly." Then immediately feeling like a bad girl for thinking that.)
Originally posted by ottobot
So. Yeah. It's a slow process for me.
Just when I feel like I've got that evil self-talk beat, it sneaks in when I let my guard down. So irritating.
But, I'll get it eventually.
Originally posted by ottobot
reply to post by greyer
Thank you for the suggestions and for taking the time to help me, it is much appreciated.
I have definitely been learning to use self-compassion. It's very strange to me, but I do realize that I need to feel empathy for myself instead of disgust when I am feeling low.
Each day is better than the day before.
Originally posted by greyer
Thanks ATS has helped me a lot so I owe plenty more. Remember we are both in the same place, we lost because of our actions, and we have not figured out life yet. But we do have understanding. So there are many virtues we are going over in our short correspondence.
Originally posted by ottobot
Yes, understanding is key to growth.
I am a sapling growing into an oak.
I am feeling like I have a lot more understanding about the essence of home, and by extension - Self, than I have ever had before, thanks to this thread.
Originally posted by greyer
I am an example of what everybody else thought was impossible. I have seen what everybody thought was impossible. It doesn't do anything for me, but open up my soul like the friendly skies at night. I need this thread. We are lost and cannot find our way home.
Originally posted by ottobot
What have you seen?
If there's one thing that I have learned in life, it is that what everybody else thinks is impossible doesn't matter.
It is only what you think is possible that will get you where you want to go.
Originally posted by greyer
Hey ottobot, what I have come to learn is a powerful thing, indeed I saw something that coincides with the truth of the world. It was a sequence of events over a period of years that self-proves reality in the world, reality of the impossible. This reality takes me out my body so I really want to learn this thread, not knowing how to go back into my body.
Yesterday I took a step backward like ten miles.
You know how earlier I was saying that my soul can be invaded from unwanted vibrational frequencies based on longing thoughts of my mind, yesterday an event that normally would create an experience for this to be put into works occured, so in my ego I am thinking to avoid the chance of interaction between my mind and my soul. I did avoid it but in this case I missed an opportunity to heal my soul through friendship and happiness tenfold.
The only conclusion to that is to make my soul vulnerable, as we discussed earlier. So the conclusion to that is to exceed psychologically, because everything begins with a picture in our minds. And I think that all these conlusions are a small piece of finding home, there are probably over 20 conclusions which will have to be interwoven together.
Originally posted by BIHOTZ
the entire planet is my home. I really consider it mine in its entirety. Our nomadic ancestors were from everywhere and no where originally. So, logically our whole world is ours.
Originally posted by ottobot
I am sorry to hear you feel like you missed an opportunity; it is always so difficult to see these until they've already passed. Now you know, though, and you will recognize that particular type of opportunity next time it comes along.
Originally posted by ottobot
Well, impossible is entirely subjective. So, if you are able to accomplish what you have accomplished, it is possible in reality and only impossible in critical thought.
Originally posted by ottobot
I agree with you on this point, there are many different facets to "home", peace, whatever you want to call that place of perfection. I am learning them, just as you are.
Originally posted by ottobot
Have you ever heard the term, "Fake it 'til you make it"? You tell yourself what you want to be and make that who you strive to be... eventually you start to believe that is who you are.
Originally posted by greyer
This doesn't have anything to do with thought, I may as well print it on my signature - I have Seen the connection between magic, aliens, and the occult in reality.
I am an example of what everybody else thought was impossible. I have seen what everybody thought was impossible.
Sorry I've been speaking of many terms, but home is still only one thing to me - love in my soul.
This is a psychological method that brings a fake confidence which will always make you lose. The faker does not know what is going on, the humble person is aware of everything and when he or she acts it will be calm and precise.
Originally posted by absolutely
the problem is what u keep meaning or thinking home as a source or as a relative result of ones wills or realisations, while if u see the issue objectively the truth is there, home is a right
then u can start talking how it became an issue when yes it is obvious we should not mean any home, home of wat or wat for
then u can start to confirm that truth by seeing the points u defined home through in better light
home is peace bc wars is the rule which is absurd
home is what one do while one is nothing free sense, bc nothing is absolutely abused by one which is absurd too
so i suggest kicking one from the home he constructed and then forget about it all
Originally posted by ottobot
I am interested in knowing what you have learned? You can send me a private message if you don't want to type it out in the public area.
I think that there are types of what would appear to be "magic" to our limited human brains, but that are actually forces we cannot fully understand. When we accidentally stumble upon ways to access these forces, it is then called "occult" because it scares people who do not understand it. Aliens who have technology to travel here have technology and knowledge that would seem like "magic" to us, and may or may not be influencing the evolution of humans by introducing new types of brain functionality through biological/genetic manipulation of [purported] abductees.
But, again, I am interested in the perspective you have gained through your experiences.