reply to post by muse7
Well I just turned 59.
And I have some advice.
If you smoke, drink excessively, do drugs or are really obese.......................get a hold of your bad habit(s) and try to take really good care
of your body.
Exercise, eat healthy, don't do drugs, smoke or drink too much alcohol.
When you are young you think you will live forever, nothing will ever "bring you down".
The quality of life you will experience in old age will be determined how well you treat this vessel you now are the proud owner of.
Every decade marks a change.
Most noticeable for me was 50 (I just turned 59).
Some things I notice and it's different with everyone:
I get more stressed out over little things.
My sleep pattern has changed, I now only need about 5 - 6 hours of sleep, wake up and maybe take a little 1-2 hour nap.
I do feel more "centered"......I seem to see the end coming closer vs having "all the time in the world".
Movie stars, the latest fashion, being beautiful, partying, even having jewelry don't matter to me any more.
I find that helping others, giving of myself, like rescuing a dog that was on death row, spending time at a homeless shelter serving up food, bringing
blankets and clothes makes me feel good.
When I was younger I was clueless, more immature, more selfish.
Now I see what is really important in life, being kind. Being the change I want to see in the world.
My bones ache, I could tell all yesterday snow was coming, could actually feel it coming.
I don't feel as "good" as I did at 20, 30, 40 - but I don't exercise everyday like I should.
I don't care as much what other people think of me................I try to play nice, share and if people don't think I'm cool, tough titties!
Watch the funny, cute movie, "Death Becomes Her"..............it says a lot. Take really good care of your body NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Don't trash your
body because the better care you take of you, the happier and better quality of life you will have.
I love hanging around kids, animals and happy, positive active people because they bring you up.
Take poor Whitney Houston as a example, all that money, fame and beauty and dead at 48.
Below is a most significant saying I have tacked up on my wall. (I collect quotes):
“Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.” - unknown
Buy yourself that expensive scented soap (look at my profile for some good soap and body butters).
Use that scented candle that you haven't touched because it's so fancy.
Take a candle light bath.
Dance in the rain (If there is no thunder or lightening)
Practice random acts of kindness, actually this will make you feel good.
Read, explore, never stop trying to learn new things.
Actually if I came across a bottle with a genie in it and he/she offered me a chance to go back to being 20, I wouldn't - I actually like being 59.
I've got my health, my husband of 38 years, 3 sons (approaching middle age) and a beautiful, beautiful grand daughter who seems to have a good head on
her shoulders............the apple of my eye.
And then there is my dog, I've had the privilege of sharing my life with now six dogs and various cats that were all rescues.
Your physical body aches more, your hair gets thinner, but I try to keep my mind sharp. I've always hated violence but as you get older it becomes
(for me) more repulsive and senseless.
I see how senseless some of the "stuff" I use to think was important is, like having the best house, the fanciest car, the nicest clothes or highest
I enjoy dressing for me, I like to be comfortable, in jeans, a nice warm loose top and my big wooly socks.
Another movie that I liked was "Leap Year" in the movie it is said, "Always kiss your love as if it is the first time and the last time."
Finally, many people say they die regretting things they never got to do.
I, myself have found my biggest regrets have been opening my big fat mouth and saying hurtful things I didn't mean to. My biggest regrets are what I
have said, never have I regretted keeping my mouth shut.
But that's just me.
Everyone is different.
to everyone out there in ATS Land.
edit on 14-2-2012 by ofhumandescent because: grammar