I agree with TwistedWords, you need to hold a firm intention that whatever-it-is is not welcome, is banished from your home, and must never return.
Do not flirt with it by playing with Ouiji boards or seances, that will only keep it coming around. You guys have been living with it for a long
time, but the scratches say it is unfriendly, and that would only get worse, not better.
You had the right idea when imagining the room filled with light and saying "begone!" etc, but the other poster who said to be more specific is right.
Make sure your intention is that this thing MUST LEAVE and not come back. You can try throwing love at it, but given your current situation, I would
throw the love toward filling the area (including anything in it) with light and love, and washing any negative influences out (visualize them
draining down through the floor, through the earth below your foundation, through the other side of the planet, and awayyyyy....) and pulling beauty,
love, and light into the area from above, filling up the house and a goodly bit surrounding the house with nothing but positive influences.
If you feel like your Grandmother is a protector, she probably is, you likely won't be able to picture her as someone you want to dismiss. You can't
lie to your own emotions, and it sounds like you loved your Grandma, no bad blood there. I would continue to allow her loving presence, but don't
imagine it is she who you see or her perfume you smell, as it is much more likely that is a trick by the unwelcome presence. I personally think you
have a djinn attached to your family, probably to your husband, probably resulting from the opening at his old place where there was a suicide,
combined with ya'lls interest in the paranormal. Plus the fact it has moved with you from residence to residence. They are tricky entities. Do a
little research and see if you agree. At any rate, I think you can get this under control, but you mustn't play with it, instead, end its game. You
are actually the ones in control, since you are physical and it is not. It can only do so much, and considering it has been around so long, it is
probably used to getting its way.
If you still aren't able to get control after salting, smudging, making clear your intent for it to leave your family for good, definitely seek help
from a professional paranormal team. They will help you free of charge, if legit. There was another poster who offered to help you get in touch with
a team in your area, take him/her up on the offer.
Good luck and best wishes to your family!
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