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The former Marine wrote on his Facebook page that Child Protective Services officials came to his home in Stanly Co. on Saturday and interviewed him and his daughter — separately — after viewers of the video called with concerns about his actions.
He said the police also stopped by.
“The police by the way said ‘Kudos, sir,’ ” Jordan wrote. "I actually had a "thank you" from an entire detectives squad. And another police officer is using it in a positive manner in his presentation for the school system. How’s about those apples? Didn’t expect THAT when you called the cops did you?”
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. . . but this wasn't about discipline, it was about one-upping his daughter.
would have worn my Silverbelly Stetson, not my Tilley hat if I'd known that image was going to follow me the rest of my life and I'd probably have cleaned my boots."
He has said that the video has since been monetized to pay for attorney’s fees, as many people have tried to impersonate, duplicate, and otherwise copy his video.
Originally posted by BO XIAN
reply to post by daskakik
Yeah, there's an ego problem on all sides. I noted that early on.
As to 100% in the girl's behalf . . . how many of your actions and choices are 100% selfless?
I think he's above average in doing with what he was dealt as his thrownness in life.
In the long written response, he says he refuses to talk to the media as he believes benefiting from the ordeal would send the wrong message to his teen daughter.
Originally posted by BO XIAN
However, your selfishness is well to consider when you're the one labeling someone else selfish.
Particularly when you're accusing him of being hypocritical.
I've said plenty above about how he could have done things better.
I don't consider him an ideal parent.
I don't consider him to be as bad as you seem to.
You seem to be equating things that aren't exactly equal.
Originally posted by BO XIAN
You seem to be equating things that aren't exactly equal.
Originally posted by TheRedneck
reply to post by BO XIAN
(continued)
We have something similar happening in this country: a lot of people have decided they know exactly how to parent every child, as though each child were some sort of assembly-line manufactured toy, and they are going to make darn sure that every child is treated the way they "should" be treated, if it kills every child out there! No consideration of their solutions is needed; any aberration is simply ignored and any undesirable result is attributed to something else.
That's not the way to make change.
So regardless of whether someone thinks this dad was showing ego, stooping to her level, throwing a fit, acting violently, airing laundry, destroying self-esteem, or just being a jerk... he was doing something to try and control his daughter. That in itself is over and above what a lot of parents do when confronted with a disobedient teen.
Heck, some are calling 911 to get kids to do their homework!
TheRedneck
Originally posted by daskakik
You seem to be looking for differences to justify the guys actions. I'm looking at the actions for what they are. Being the "authority" doesn't justify a tantrum. I'm saying that this is all this was and not some great feat of parenting.
Originally posted by BO XIAN
I don't see that he needs to justify his actions near as much as a lot of the naysayers hereon.
He demonstrated some integrity about keeping his word and setting a firm boundary to a rebellious, increasingly out of control teen.
He certainly could have done better earlier in the daughter's life. At this point, he's playing catchup. And he's still above average.
But not about making money from the vid.
The millions of people that raise respectful children without having to resort to these type of tactics are average.
Originally posted by TheRedneck
How exactly does his making a buck change what he did or why he did it? Is it now immoral to make money? And would most others do any different?
This is just another excuse to say the guy is "bad", based on the idea that all parents are "bad". The kids are the "good" people, right?
So you believe most parents do not discipline their children? Or maybe that most parents don't take things from their children when they get abused? Got news for you: most parents that raise successful happy children do do all those things. Maybe they don't post it on FaceBook or YouTube, but considering the asinine things I see already posted on there by obviously troubled teens (and young adults), maybe they need to.
I said it earlier and I will say it again: she posted her little rant on FaceBook, not in a diary. She lied to the world openly and publicly about her situation. She took the kindness of her father and turned it into a weapon against him. She was out of control.
He responded with an explanation in the same venue to set straight her lies, and followed through with his earlier promise in that venue. If you don't want a parent responding to lies on FaceBook, how about we stop kids from lying on FaceBook to start with?
He said that he wouldn't because it would send the wrong message to his daughter. He later went back on this. That is the opposite of being a man of his word.
They were both ranting in public. You think he had the right and she didn't. I disagree.
How about acting like an adult and recognizing that kids will vent and that it isn't that big of a deal. They have always done it but it wasn't stored in some server where the parent could run across it.
Originally posted by TheRedneck
Yes, he did. However, he did not make the video for money originally (as in via contract or anticipation of income), and the allegations of taking money have been used not to judge him, but to justify judgments already entered. It's therefore an excuse to disapprove of his actions, not a reason to disapprove of his actions.
Consider this: if someone went on YouTube and started posting videos talking about how you had done things you never had done, or how you said things you never had said, heinous things that offended you deeply, is that their 'right'? And do you think you would have no right to challenge them?
That's what happened: she posted false allegations via Internet social networking. He refuted those allegations and followed through with his earlier promise. And you say she's right and he's wrong?
Keeping one's promise and exposing lies is "acting like an adult".
Here's the problem in a nutshell: he didn't choose where all this would happen; she did. He was not the one who chose to start spreading innuendo and outright lies on a public social medium; she was. He responded in the same venue and set the record straight.
This situation has been going on since there were children, but before the invention of Internet social media, it was typically to a few close friends or in a diary or journal. Thus, it would be handled by confrontation in front of those few friends or privately in the home.
The accuser always, always, always chooses the venue! And the accuser in this case is: the daughter.
Originally posted by daskakik
Actually you don't know what his original intentions were. If he said that making money from it would be wrong, then he decided to do just that, then by his own words, he is doing wrong. I don't need an excuse to disappove of his actions when he disapproves of them himself.