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Originally posted by Hannagan
The daughter was not taught the right life skills and the father over reacted. They both failed really. Kids like that are in for a rude shock when they have to work.
I have never dealt with many subjects, such as veterinary medicine. Would I inject a supposed 'expert' opinion on the subject? No... I would listen to those who have experience in the field and try to learn. My opinions would be anecdotal and very subjective.
So when it comes to parenting issues, who would have the most informed opinions? Someone who has never raised a child, or someone who has raised a child? And in the same vein of thought, among those who have raised a child, who would have the most reliable experience: those who have young children or those who have grown children? And among those who who have grown children, whose opinions would be more trustworthy: those who had successful children or those who did not?
Originally posted by CaptainNemo
The man said he previously grounded his daughter for 3 months, she messed up again so he demonstrated that what he gave to her he can just as easily take back/destroy. If he would've shot the computer the 1st time she disrespected him THAT would be overreacting. He followed an increasing system of punishment. Fair play
And I don't get why people are calling this guy angry. He never raised his voice once. When I disrespected my dad I got kicked out the house. I was 16 and it was the middle of winter. When I acted up in school my dad came up to the school and found me. This girls got it easy and she should be thankful
Sometimes you try your hardest with a kid, try to teach them all the right things and they turn out to be the opposite. Parents aren't perfect and from the video I can get a sense of his style of discipline. He gave her some freedom, tried to be nice to her and in return she abused it and disrespected him.
All of these things are what my wife and I have striven for with our children, and of course haven't always succeeded. But as with everything, it's a work in progress. We do our best to learn from our mistakes and not do what doesn't work.
For those who haven't lived with children in an authoritative role, you really have no idea how you would react until you're in those situations. What you think you would do is not necessarily what will actually happen. Until you have to think in your feet day in and day out, respond to their actions (or inactions), answer their questions, endure the stress of being depended upon, and just generally live every day hoping you don't screw up too badly , you really have no idea.
This is the same sentiment behind the phrase "every battle plan only survives until contact with the enemy." some things work, some don't and the ones tht do don't always apply in every situation. Children are people too, and are unique.
They're like arrows, you can aim them in the right direction, but once they're in flight, there's not a real easy way to change their trajectory.
Originally posted by Destinyone
What disturbs me, is, we have a whole generation of children being raised in an environment of apathy.
Parents have, for whatever reasons, given up on actually raising their children. Have become dependent on society to raise them for them.
The concept of raising children with consequences pretty much has been thrown out the window. Apathy doesn't instill values, consequences does.
I applaud the father in his following through on the lesson of consequences with his daughter. What he did, he had warned her of should she not take to heart his previous lesson, that was given verbally. He followed through with the exact consequences, she apparently didn't listen to. Good for him, I say.
Apathy from a parent leaves no line drawn in the sand, of what is acceptable, and what is not. Hence we have a generation of half-baked kids with no concept of boundaries and consequences. I fear for our future, I really do.
He said "They kept just giving me all this crap to do all the time"........I said "That's a job.....they get you to do things.........all the time, in fact...the whole time".
The father chose to use a .45 to destroy the laptop. Fine. It does not matter how he destroyed it, but why he destroyed it. He did so because that laptop was being used by his daughter to hurt herself, no different than if he took away a knife she was trying to cut herself with.
That's the issue. Not your fear of firearms.
In a perfect world, he would have disciplined her when she was younger, and this would not be necessary. But in my perfect world, the old biddy that likes to jump in parents' faces when they spat a misbehaving child in the store would be slapped up side her jaws every time she did it and the police wouldn't care.
There is nothing more important to a parent than their children. Nothing, not life itself.
As I said once to my daughter: "I really would like to be your friend, but I have no choice but to be your daddy."
Originally posted by TheRedneck
reply to post by BO XIAN
I have tried it and never had much success. Why? Because it isn't really punishment. My son has his own PC, laptop, cell phone, mp3 player, etc., etc., etc. in his room.
Sometimes, some parents have found it useful to . . . say at the end of the month or week . . . have a family powwow and ask each other . . . what could we have done better this past week/month.
It's a great lesson to the kids to see the parents own their flaws and mistakes; learn from them; pick up and grow on.