reply to post by Trexter Ziam
He was ANGRY ... VERY ANGRY ... and that's a no-win situation.
News flash: parents are human. Humans get angry, especially when they are taken advantage of and treated with disrespect. It's not good to be angry,
of course, but it is something this girl should have expected. Slap someone else and you are probably going to get slapped back.
He was destructive and vindictive (or is vengeful the right word?).
Yes, he destroyed a laptop computer that had been the weapon of choice his daughter had used on him.
He was wasteful.
Yes, he wasted a laptop and a clip full of cartridges.
He also sent a silent "threat" implying 'the next round of bullets are for you kid'.
I saw no threat of such. What I saw was an implied show of force to emphasize that his daughter is not an adult yet and thus is still under his house
rules. He never threatened her with physical harm in any way.
As I have said before, and as he said in the introduction, he had already tried grounding her from the laptop and cell phone for similar situations;
it did not work. If one attempts a solution to a problem, and the solution tried does not correct said problem, then one is faced with two choices:
allow the problem to persist or try a different solution. I understand some do not see the problem that exists here, but it does still exist. If
allowed to continue this disrespectful behavior, this girl will never hold down a decent job, never amount to anything, probably wind up on welfare or
worse, living in a drug-infested web of hopelessness. That is typically the end result of such behavior if left unchecked.
Now, what kind of father would you see him to be if he allowed that to happen?
Instead, he tried a new tactic: instead of handling this in private as he had tried before, he went public just as she had gone public with her
behavior. By doing so, he embarrassed her tremendously. Instead of simply taking the computer away, he destroyed it violently, emphasizing the fact
that her actions had hurt her family. By reading the cause of this action publicly and explaining his actions prior to taking the actions, he has not
demonstrated vindictive or vengeful behavior, but rather acts taken in desperation to try and stop her from doing things that will ultimately destroy
This man indicated he wanted to shoot his daughter next? I took it as he demonstrated that he thought more of his daughter than anything, and was
willing to sacrifice whatever he had to to teach her to be a productive, happy adult.
It's called 'tough love', and it worked well for centuries. Of course, the alternative is as you described; it has worked badly for a few