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Originally posted by twitchy
I've seen alot of posters talking about the girl being humiliated like that's a bad thing. The root word of humiliated is humility, being humble, which is of the highest virtues in life. Unfortunately there's not too many pleasant ways of learning that, and sometimes our role as a parent precludes teaching it.
I'm a parent (grandparent now) and I can promise you I would never spend money on a computer to let my kids sit there and trash me with it. There's respect for authority, a new sense of humility, clearly drawn boundries, all of that for six bucks worth of ammo ain't that bad of a deal really. Yeah it's melodramatic to a fault, but isn't everything lately? I am willing to bet her chores are getting done now.
Originally posted by freethinker123
Why would I think that either of us is responsible for the discipline of a child that has nothing to do with either of us??? You speak as if you know the family - 'he has done nothing to physically harm her'.
What is the point of making that statement when you clearly don't know? And no, I'm not saying he has harmed her.
You are inferring she's a bad kid and that has nothing to do with her upbringing. I'm saying we don't know the whole story, even if it is clear she is spoiled.
Lastly I don't know where the logic is when you admit that she humiliated her father online, but think that its ok for her father to humiliate his daughter online. Two wrongs don't make a right. Thats what most kids (and some adults apparantely) have to be told.
HOW SHE GOT CAUGHT: The Dog Did It.. no, really.
I finally came out and told her this today, partly because it was too funny NOT to share.
When my daughter made her post, she used Facebook's privacy settings to block "Family" and "Church" friend's lists. All her other friends could see it. We, of course could not.
One of our dogs is always getting in photos and therefore has her own Facebook page. It's just a cute dumb thing we did for fun. Well, the dog's profile is rarely used except when funny pictures of her are posted. Since that's not too often, and she has very few friends on Facebook, her wall is kind of bare, with relatively few posts showing up on it.
The other night we gave the dog a bath and there was a funny photo we uploaded to Facebook and tagged her in. I logged in as the dog the next morning to comment on the photo. However when I logged into the dog's profile, my daughter had forgotten to add her to the "family" list.... so our family dog's profile showed her post right there on the front page.
It wasn't any parent-hacking, computer spying, or monitoring of any kind.. the dog actually ratted her out completely by accident. She hasn't petted that dog all day today...
Attention Media Outlets:
While we appreciate the interest you're all putting forth to get in touch with us regarding the video, we're not going to go on your talk show, not going to call in to your radio show, and not going to be in your TV mini-series.
Some of you think I made an acceptable parenting decision and others think I didn't. However, I can't think of any way myself or my daughter can respond to a media outlet that won't be twisted out of context. The Dallas news TV news already showed that in their brief 5 minute interview with the psychologist.
Additionally, there's absolutely NO way I'm going to send my child the message that it's OK to gain from something like this. It would send her a message that it's OK to profit at the expense of someone else's embarrassment or misfortune and that's now how I was raised, nor how she has been raised.
So I say thank you from all of us. If we have anything to say, we'll say it here on Facebook, and we'll say it publicly, but we won't say it to a microphone or a camera. There are too many other REAL issues out there that could use this attention you're giving us. My daughter isn't hurt, emotionally scarred, or otherwise damaged, but that kind of publicity has never seemed to be to have a positive effect on any child or family.
If you're a news outlet that wants to ask us a question, feel free to so via email. I'm sure by now my email address is easy enough to find. It might take me awhile to get to a response because I'd have to sort through the "Die you bastard" emails to find it, but we will respond if its something that we feel merits it. Otherwise, sorry... no interviews, no talk shows, no call-ins.
If we respond to anything, it will be on here, and it will be in a way that our words can't be misconstrued or edited for appeal to specific audience or shock value.
Now, I'm going to try to get to work for the day.
Best of luck to all of you out there... and PLEASE give my phone a break.
Originally posted by freethinker123
'that kind of publicity has never seemed to be to have a positive effect on any child or family. ' the father says.
Its a pity he didn't think of that before posting the video on youtube and facebook.
I wonder how long before the child is identified and her schoolfriends speak to the press.
Deliberately wash your dirty linen in public and don't be surprised if everyone crowds round to take a look.
edit on 10-2-2012 by freethinker123 because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by graphuto
Originally posted by freethinker123
'that kind of publicity has never seemed to be to have a positive effect on any child or family. ' the father says.
Its a pity he didn't think of that before posting the video on youtube and facebook.
I wonder how long before the child is identified and her schoolfriends speak to the press.
Deliberately wash your dirty linen in public and don't be surprised if everyone crowds round to take a look.
edit on 10-2-2012 by freethinker123 because: (no reason given)
I don't believe he thought it would get as much attention as it did. How many thousands of people post tens of thousands of things on YouTube and Facebook that DON'T get as much attention as this. The reason it GOT so much attention, IMO, is because this dude is clearly right on a metaphysical level, and it resonated with a LOT of people.
In addition to THAT, he is trying to use whatever publicity DOES come of this to donate to a charity.edit on 10-2-2012 by graphuto because: (no reason given)
No,even the best of parenting produces children that make bad choices every now and then.I've seen it happen more than once.
Originally posted by woodwardjnr
reply to post by Irish614
Surely he has failed as a parent if his daughter has turned out to be such a spoilt bratt. He's the guy who has raised her after all. You reap what you sow.
Thank god someone gets it,after reading some of the posts on here some of the responses are just mind numbing
Originally posted by twitchy
I've seen alot of posters talking about the girl being humiliated like that's a bad thing. The root word of humiliated is humility, being humble, which is of the highest virtues in life. Unfortunately there's not too many pleasant ways of learning that, and sometimes our role as a parent precludes teaching it.
I'm a parent (grandparent now) and I can promise you I would never spend money on a computer to let my kids sit there and trash me with it. There's respect for authority, a new sense of humility, clearly drawn boundries, all of that for six bucks worth of ammo ain't that bad of a deal really. Yeah it's melodramatic to a fault, but isn't everything lately? I am willing to bet her chores are getting done now.