first of all, some kids no matter how well raised in an upper class family that is good to them and teaches them right still turns out to be spoiled
as hell with bad manners, influence which usually comes from friends...
second, sometimes the best way to get someone who is so blinded to see your point is to say it out loud in front of the world, that can be a life
changer, and isn't always a bad thing, it will give her character, and humility.
thirdly, it sounds like she has been a pain in the butt for a while now. I don't really think he'll ground her for years, probably for a pretty long
time, but parents (good parents that is) don't hold grudges, and do these types of things sometimes to get attention to their cause. He seems like a
really good dad, and really fair....
four. swearing is a sign of disrespect to a parent. you probably won't get that if your're not a parent, but it is disrespectful, and it was in my
friends houses, and I'm sure just about most of the normal households in the world. he wouldn't be doing his job as a good parent if he did not
address the language.
fifth, you're missing the point about the gun, and shooting the lap top. 1. I don't think it was about money, he sounded like he was pretty well
off. 2. shooting it was more a symbol meaning the crap stops here, and there is too much investment in material items rather than life values. 3.
she probably loved that lap top more than anything in the world. 4. lets get real, he's for sure not teaching her to get angry and smash things up.
5. it sounds like he has been trying to teach her the value of money, seeing how she is only 15 still, trying to help get her a job, telling her
"No" she won't get payed to clean her own living space. 6. it shows he puts his daughter first not material items, or the labor he put into
and finally sixth, I really think you're grasping at straws calling this cyber bullying or anything close to that. The daughter thought that she
could vent, and publicly humiliate her own parent on a social network, how embarrassing for the parents after all they do for her, she needed this
right back at her to teach a solid lesson. If my kids did this they would be lucky if I didn't get a bull horn and call all the news stations down
to city hall to watch me publicly rant. IMHO you need to take a serious look from a parents perspective here, instead of posting a childish rant
just to add, we really don't know what the father has been putting up with for the past 6 months 2 years whatever... things could have been building
up for awhile here........
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I don't agree that good parenting is done via facebook and youtube. Yes as viewers we 'enjoy' watching, but 9.99 out of 10 parents would not do
this, because they know it won't help. They know that family matters are dealt with in the family. I don't even know why we are discussing this
point, unless you would also be prepared to do this to your children on youtube etc.
It seems to me that reality tv has got into the psyche of some too much.
On the basis of one youtube video its hard to know what kind of dad he is. He seemed fair in the beginning but towards the end he comes accross as too
extreme. And if we believe he is honest then we can also believe he would ground his daughter for years. If he didn't mean it, he could have cut that
part from the video.
About the swearing we have no idea of the context - all kids swear. He might not accept that she should swear at all inside or outiside the house.
Thats not realistic. And like I said swearing is the bottom of the list. There is a whole lot of stuff more important than that, but the fact he
mentioned it kind of shows that she doesn't do worse stuff, or he would have said that as well.
Life values is fine, but the value of money is not the same as life values. The reason why most people want money is to buy material items. Shooting
her laptop didn't help. Where is she going to do her schoolwork? Getting angry is ok, and I know its not easy dealing with teenagers, but acting like
a child having a tantrum shooting laptops on youtube is not the way to do it.