Originally posted by freethinker123
Don't get me wrong there are a lot of spoilt teenagers out there and I'm sure that this girl falls into that category but was that the right way to
First - good parenting isn't done over youtube and facebook for our entertainment, its done directly between parents and the children. If this had
happened in another context it could be considered trolling or cyberbullying.
Second - Was it really necessary to get out a gun to shoot a working laptop? I mean when the guy has spent hours on installing software on it where is
the logic. And if he is trying to teach the value of money / looking after things to his daughter is it wise to destroy it. What does he think he is
teaching his daughter next time she gets angry - go smash up something?
Third - Cussing. Everybody swears, of course its ok to have a rule that kids shouldn't swear in the house, but it is at the bottom of the list of
A couple more points that the father has to understand, most teenagers are a pain in the ass. They will be lazy, they will swear, they will complain
about their parents to their friends. Most of us did exactly the same. Grounding your kid for a couple of years won't make things any better, it will
make them hate you and they might respond by even worse behaviour.
Lastly if your kid misbehaves so much you have to ask where that comes from. Have you been setting the right example? How have you been raising them?
Have you not spent enough time with them, getting to know them. Its not rocket science to realise that going on facebook and youtube to embarass or
humiliate your children isn't the best way to raise your children. (rant over!)
first of all, some kids no matter how well raised in an upper class family that is good to them and teaches them right still turns out to be spoiled
as hell with bad manners, influence which usually comes from friends...
second, sometimes the best way to get someone who is so blinded to see your point is to say it out loud in front of the world, that can be a life
changer, and isn't always a bad thing, it will give her character, and humility.
thirdly, it sounds like she has been a pain in the butt for a while now. I don't really think he'll ground her for years, probably for a pretty long
time, but parents (good parents that is) don't hold grudges, and do these types of things sometimes to get attention to their cause. He seems like a
really good dad, and really fair....
four. swearing is a sign of disrespect to a parent. you probably won't get that if your're not a parent, but it is disrespectful, and it was in my
friends houses, and I'm sure just about most of the normal households in the world. he wouldn't be doing his job as a good parent if he did not
address the language.
fifth, you're missing the point about the gun, and shooting the lap top. 1. I don't think it was about money, he sounded like he was pretty well
off. 2. shooting it was more a symbol meaning the crap stops here, and there is too much investment in material items rather than life values. 3.
she probably loved that lap top more than anything in the world. 4. lets get real, he's for sure not teaching her to get angry and smash things up.
5. it sounds like he has been trying to teach her the value of money, seeing how she is only 15 still, trying to help get her a job, telling her "No"
she won't get payed to clean her own living space. 6. it shows he puts his daughter first not material items, or the labor he put into something.
and finally sixth, I really think you're grasping at straws calling this cyber bullying or anything close to that. The daughter thought that she
could vent, and publicly humiliate her own parent on a social network, how embarrassing for the parents after all they do for her, she needed this
right back at her to teach a solid lesson. If my kids did this they would be lucky if I didn't get a bull horn and call all the news stations down to
city hall to watch me publicly rant. IMHO you need to take a serious look from a parents perspective here, instead of posting a childish rant like
just to add, we really don't know what the father has been putting up with for the past 6 months 2 years whatever... things could have been building
up for awhile here........
edit on 10/2/12 by gunshooter because: (no reason given)