posted on Feb, 8 2012 @ 12:43 PM
Yes, bullying needs to be stopped. Bullying does not make a child stronger in the ways which matter. Can it cause a child to control their emotions?
Yes but their are other ways of accomplishing this which does not cause such pain.
Bullying is a form of narcissism, as to bully someone you have to have a lack of emotions about the other persons pain. To be a bully you have to be
a selfish uncaring person.
I've also seen many young children who are the targets of bullies who "turned off" their emotions. Is that what you really wish to advocate for?
That our children turn off their emotions and become narcissist?
On the other spectrum I've seen children who were bullied end up becoming horribly violent and becoming bullies themselves when they couldn't handle
the emotional pain anymore. They also turned off their emotions other than the emotion of anger.
Is that also what you wish to advocate for?
What IS disempowering is a child who is bullied. They end up feeling "useless" and unable to care for themselves, they feel unsafe and undesirable.
It can end up being a lifelong feeling that these children will fight with their whole life. It is horribly disempowering to a child when they are
To call anyone a wussy shows your own emotional ability to be abusive and not have empathy for your fellow man.
Not having empathy for our fellow man leads us down the road of "violence is an acceptable way to handle conflict" creating adults who feel violence
is the way to handle conflict. We need to teach our children how to handle conflict with WORDS not FISTS and then perhaps as adults they will
recognize the horror of war.
Bullying has caused many a child to commit suicide, this one true problem should tell you that bullying is dangerous, bullying does NOT create
strength, it creates pain and a lack of empathy and that is part of the problem with this world.
If you look at the emotional costs of bullying it is horrendous and leads to more money being spent on needed healthcare as adults. Bullying can lead
to suicide, long term depression, loss of trust in humanity, anxiety, high levels of stress hormones and an unending list of negative responses which
can take place in an abusive environment.
Bullying is one thing only it is ABUSE and I am in shock that anyone would advocate for abuse to continue, other than those who are abusers. Abusers
will always advocate that what they are doing is NOT abuse and that what they are doing is "normal" and that what they are doing doesn't cause harm
and "toughens up" the victim. They are fooling themselves if they truly believe that and are trying to fool others into believing their clap
Those who think bullying is "normal" and "good", well your wrong. Bullying is not normal, it's the end product of a society which has forgotten
what empathy and compassion is and creates a society that has become narcissistic.
Truly, is this what you want to advocate for? A narcissistic society? We already have it, let's work at stopping the narcissistic idiots.