Originally posted by diamondsmith
reply to post by Taupin Desciple
You influence your future by getting a bit more insight into how your past and present connect with each other. It's kinda like that old saying " If
you don't know history, you're doomed to repeat it."
I think that everything is predestined to happen ( and ) is written somewhere and we can not do anything than to change the little by little
of what is happening, in direct proportion to our nature.
You think your nature is pre-destined while I think our nature is something that we use to make our destinty.
Let me give you a real life example. My father was an alcoholic. He had an addictive personality. When I was born I too was born with an addictive
personality. I never knew my father physically ( personally ) , therefore, he had no direct influence over me. My NATURE is what made me follow in his
footsteps. To a certain point. If I were to think like you, I would believe that I would die of pnuemonia because of drinking my ENTIRE life before I
hit 60, because that is my destiny. Because that was his. But I'm not going to die of pnuemonia because I quit drinking at 30. Dying young like that
not my destiny. How do I know? Because I learned from something that happened in my PAST that if you keep doing things to your body that is proven to
destroy it, you're going to die young. I don't know exactly HOW I'm going to die, but I know I'm not going to repeat the mistakes of my father because
I'm not following in his footsteps anymore. I'm following in my own footsteps because I stopped living the life he did and started living my own. By
making my own destiny. And I think that way because I really had no choice but to think that way. When you have no one you can depend on, you depend
on yourself.
You're right though DS, on a very basic level our lives are mapped out for us. But I for one don't know how my life is going to end, therefore, I
don't know EXACTLY what my destiny is. That being the case, how do I know I'm shaping it by doing the little things I'm doing, if I don't know what it
is to begin with? All I know is that I try to be a better man today than I was yesterday. And I really believe that I can't do that if I believe that
since my destiny is pre-determined that I'm already as good as I'm going to get. And that the little things I do are merely helping shape what is
already there.
I don't mean any disrespect DS, but there's a part of me that really wishes I could still see things your way. When I was younger I used to and it was
a very comfortable way to live. Always believing that something else was in ultimate control shaping my life for me. Let's just say that my decision
making process was VERY easy because I thought that my decisions didn't really matter much anyway because I wasn't really in control.
But because of outside circumstances, circumstances that came in from the real world and shattered my illusion that I didn't have to do anything for
myself, I was pretty much thrown into the world and left to my own devices. I was left making my own destiny. I had no choice.
People have this basic fear of the unknown and I think that's why most people are comfortable with believing their lives are pre-destined. Everything
is already known and all they have to do is fill in a few insignificant blanks. I never had that luxury. THAT was MY destiny. Not having one by
choice.
On a side note, I've got a lyric that I wrote a long time ago that I'll post someday real soon that you might like.
edit on 11-2-2012 by Taupin
Desciple because: Clarity