I'm posting this under this section because I'm looking more for a general discussion on this for those that have knowledge or are interested in
this topic. Mods if you feel it belongs somewhere else, please move.
I recently became interested in this topic because someone came into my life (online) that was requesting to be put into a position of trust with me.
I don't know about all of you, but trust is something that has to be earned with me, and my life experience has taught me to dole out trust
carefully. Likewise, I would never expect anyone to just trust me without myself earning it and proving through my actions that I could be trusted.
Unfortunately, that is the world that we live in. There are many good people in this world, but there are many more who have ill intentions and
cannot be trusted.
To make a long story short, I had an intuition that this person was not being completely honest with me about some things, so I started doing a little
searching around online. I had absolutely no idea that there were so many resources online for finding information on someone. There are many that
are free, while there are many more that are not free. Also, if you do this, it pays to do some research online and make sure that the paid info
sources are not going to rip you off before you give them your credit card number. I reccomend just doing consumer review searches on them, and also
the Better Business Bureau has a website at bbb.org that I highly reccomend. Also, you should understand that doing these type of searches takes lots
of time and persistence. The less you want to pay for, the more time it will take you.
Back to my experience. I trully believe in each individuals right to privacy, but that was not what my search was about. You see, I had the feeling
that I was being lied to, and therefore it became my mission to find out. After a number of days and searching etc., I came to find out that the
person communicating with me had given me a false name. Once I discovered the persons real name it became much easier. How did I do this?... reverse
cell phone search. I had to pay a little for it, but it was well worth it. After I discovered this persons real name, my search became much easier.
I have learned some lessons in all of this. One is that you should never assume anything. One thing that put me offtrack for a while is that the
cell phone number came back to a different name than this person had given me. So for over a week I was on a wild goose chase because I was thinking
that the reverse cell lookup info was wrong. Once I actually began to consider that I was being lied to.....bingo! It got much easier from then on
There are some free sites that I found very helpful. Some claim to be free, but only the initial search is free and then if you want info, you have
to pay for it. Another lesson learned.....the search may not tell you anything at all....but you still have to pay for it because you are paying for
the search, not the information. Yep! A complete and total ripoff!
One sight that I found to be very helpful is
They have alot of links to different online resources. They are very clear in showing you which ones are
paid and which ones are free. Also, I discovered that many state and county websites offer public records online free, such as property records,
birth records and marriage records. In addition, there is lots of information out there about how to track the location of someone by using their ip
address. This is easily done if they have sent you an email. Don't pay for this. If you google it, there are tons of websites that offer free
information on how to track a location by an ip address and some even offer a free ip locater. Also, social sites have a ton of info, and if you are
in a detective frame of mind, you can very easily pick up on things that someone has wrote about their life, that can give you clues.
One of the biggest things that I learned from my little journey is just how easy it is to track someone down and find out personal information about
them. In order to be completely untraceable, you would have to live completely off the grid (no bills at all), own no property, not have a phone, and
never ever use the internet anywhere that would reflect your identity. This also means that internet cafes and libraries are out if you have to show
id and be given a username in order to use the internet there. As far as hiding, using an assumed name wouldn't even work if you were not completely
off the grid. If I could so easily track down someone who gave me a fake name, being a ordinary person, how much easier would it be for those higher
ups who have more money and resources?
I am in no way advocating violating anyone's privacy. However, if you feel you are being mislead or scammed in some way it is your right to protect
yourself by verifying that the information that has been given to you is correct or incorrect. After you have determined that, then it is your choice
as to how you will proceed, since you are now fully informed.
My little journey made me realize how trackable we all are. One of the biggest mistakes that the person who was lying to me made was that he or she
(not saying) gave me their real first name but a fake last name. If they had lied about both names, my task would have been more difficult. Also,
they had alot of posts on a public internet site that I was able to get clues from that really helped me with the location search, or in other words
just kind of helped confirm that the ip address was correct.
I would love to hear from anybody that has personal experiences to share of either doing their own detective work or that have had someone track them
down via the internet. If any of us are ever in a situation of truely needing to hide, I would reccomend a situation where you don't use internet or
cell phones, and living completely off the grid would also help. Most of us are far more trackable than we have ever realized! By the way, just a
little conclusion to my own story. I have not called this particular person out on their lie. They already know they lied, and now I know they lied.
I have drawn my own conclusion about why they lied, but once again, that is an assumption, and sometimes assumptions are wrong. However, I now know
that I can't completely trust this person and i'm glad that I found that out before I found out the hard way.