posted on Feb, 4 2012 @ 09:42 PM
I'd agree that fear is behind a lot of bullying, but the other reason I have managed to identify is envy.
Most of the time it's hard for the victim to work out what they have that the bully envies, but there'll be something. So long as the bully is
keeping you down, you can't enjoy whatever you have that they'd like for themselves.
If it's your looks or your popularity or your intellect, then of course fear kicks in too. The bully doesn't want you to have the power that good
looks,social skills and / or intelligence can achieve for you. So s'he crushes the opposition - that's you - in an effort to usurp your position in
the pecking order.
Fear and envy - the causes of most of the trouble in the world.
To anyone who is the victim of a bully, don't believe what they say to belittle you. You're being picked on because the bully has identified an
enviable quality that you possess, even if it's something that you can't see for yourself. It's hard to take being bullied as a compliment
that bully has seen something good in you. If you can learn what it is and develop it, they will have done you a favour.
Oh - and sometimes there is a sexual element to it. If someone really fancies you but you're out of bounds or you're not interested in them, really
watch out. Especially if the other person is above you in some way, in the workplace for instance. That's another one that's hard for the victim to
edit on 4-2-2012 by berenike because: more info