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Originally posted by freespirit1
Hi.... I posted a month or so ago, and got such positive feedback, and I thank you all for that. Now, after telling my hubby I'm going to leave if he doesn't stop drinking, I am scared that it is too late.... His legs are swelling up, his blood pressure is through the roof, and he refuses to get medical treatment.
I've been down this road before with my sister, and after these symptoms appeared, it was about 2 months until she died from cirrhosis of the liver.
I know that I am partially to blame for "enabling", but at the same time, I tried not to "enable" my sister, and she blatantly told me that she would find it no matter what, whether it be cough syrup or alcohol, or whatever got her high.
Here, you cannot commit someone over the age of 12 with out their consent. So that leaves me with watching him slowly kill himself. He is really being nice now, not the jerk he was when I posted before, which makes it really hard for me to just up and leave, knowing he has limited time.
I sometimes feel that I am the failure, but then sometimes realize that it is circumstance rather than enablement that is the truth. Can I really blame myself for my sister, and now my husband for "drinking themselves to death?" Or is it my fault for just being a part of their lives and enabling?
ARGHHHHHHHHHH I will never touch nor be with anyone that ever drinks..... ever. I have done my share of that and can see where it is pure evil.
Any input is fine, I am not a person that is not weak by any means, have made some really bad choices in life, but still.... I made a vow to this man and cannot leave him when I know in my heart he is dying.
Here is the post from before:
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